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Original poster

To wonder whether anybody has 'sent X this thread'?

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Yonionekanobe · 08/09/2013 19:38

Bad form, I know - a thread inspired by another of this evening's most active conversations...

..but we often see/give/receive the advice to send the subject of the thread the thread, in attempt to show the breadth of feeling usually against, though sometimes in support, of the individual at the centre of the discussion.

So - easy question, has anyone ever done this and what was the consequence?

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Original poster
Yonionekanobe · 08/09/2013 19:55

I asked a question as I was genuinely interested in people's experiences. Of course I had no intention of making anyone feel inferior. I am a regular poster and have never been asked to clarify in the past. I apologise if I made anyone feel inferior.

Growlithe - yes Grin oops!

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MissManaged · 08/09/2013 19:56

littlewhitebag Are you a lawyer by any chance?

Laughed & laughed at this. Popular misconception about words and lawyers; half the studying time is spent learning how to say things in as few words as possible! word counts so tight they squeaked.
Also bloody picky about punctuation, as every damn comma makes a difference.

Much maligned breed, lawyers.

NoelHeadbands · 08/09/2013 19:57

I understood what you meant from the title

GingerBlackAndOriental · 08/09/2013 19:57

I have showed my DH a thread before when we had a disagreement about something.

He says you all sided with me because you are a women and stick together. Even though a couple of posters agreed with him or could see his side of things.

HarrietSchulenberg · 08/09/2013 19:58

Op's post was perfectly clear and I can't brlieve so many people had difficulty understanding it.

In reply, I did occasionally show ex-H thread responses with a triumphant, "Ha! Told you" if MN agreed with me, or an, "Oh bugger they think you're right" if they didn't agree. All in jest though.

GingerBlackAndOriental · 08/09/2013 19:59

*all women

spongebob13 · 08/09/2013 19:59

well brlieve it or not it wasn't your every day English. OP wasn't making anyone feel bad but no one should be made feel bad for not getting it straight away.

spongebob13 · 08/09/2013 20:01

to answer the op I cant see it been shown to the subject of the thread on a sensitive matter but maybe on the light hearted ones.

however I have read a thread (not on here) about myself and family and realised there were a lot more of the same nature. was not a nice time but everyone is kind of over it now. live and learn.

RustyBear · 08/09/2013 20:01

I don't see why the OP should apologise for writing in perfectly normal English, and if any post on this thread was 'designed' to make someone feel bad, it was filee's at 19.47.

littlewhitebag · 08/09/2013 20:04

I wasn't trying to make OP feel bad. I just really couldn't get my head round what she was asking. Possibly my tired brain not functioning. I understand now and can see on re-reading the OP that it was quite clear was was being asked.

missmanaged i get lots of lawyers letters and they are not all easy to read! Some are great at plain English and some not so good.

TeaAndABiscuit · 08/09/2013 20:06

I thought the OP was really clear-and a good idea.

Original poster
Yonionekanobe · 08/09/2013 20:07

And it worked Rusty, but I'm tired, pregnant and over sensitive at the moment so that isn't hard!

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filee777 · 08/09/2013 20:07

Sorry if it took it the wrong way OP but it came across as rather elitist and purposefully designed to isolate those who would find it difficult to understand.

I don't really see why such overly flowery and hard to follow language is necessary on a forum like this, surely the more people who understand the better, rather than less?

Anyway, like I said, different strokes for different folks.

Original poster
Yonionekanobe · 08/09/2013 20:09

You didn't at all little! Only comment that wasn't fair cop, in my

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TeaAndABiscuit · 08/09/2013 20:09

Maybe we should show this thread to people who want to start needless arguments on the Internet Wink

MissManaged · 08/09/2013 20:09

littlewhitebag i get lots of lawyers letters and they are not all easy to read! Some are great at plain English and some not so good

spot the 2:2 's Grin Grin

candycoatedwaterdrops · 08/09/2013 20:09

MN is weird tonight. I knew what you meant and don't think it is 'elitist'.

Bumblebee333 · 08/09/2013 20:10

I understood what you were asking. I have never done it though.

Original poster
Yonionekanobe · 08/09/2013 20:10

Oops.

..opinion, was the one already pointed out.

Anyway, I've managed to derail my own thread - but many thanks for the interesting responses and other comments!

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candycoatedwaterdrops · 08/09/2013 20:10

MN is weird tonight. I knew what you meant and don't think it is 'elitist'.

AlexReidsLonelyBraincell · 08/09/2013 20:12

Well I could understand you perfectly op, and I iz as fick as pigshit and that.

LtEveDallas · 08/09/2013 20:15

I did it once. On a subject that was quite sensitive. It caused a huge and vicious row, but was actually what was needed. There were apologies after - "for being such a cunt" and that is a word that had NEVER been heard before (or since).

MollyBerry · 08/09/2013 20:16

I got what you were saying and no I haven't, mainly because MN seems to be a hush hush thing that noone talks about in RL (or at least in my life)

GibberTheMonkey · 08/09/2013 20:19

Same as Molly
I wouldn't because mn is my thing (even though I know others who use it we don't talk of it)

And you op was fine. It wasn't as of you had swallowed a thesaurus.

Maryz · 08/09/2013 20:28

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