to ditch an invite from a friend because a better offer has come up?

[Mintyy]

This is a wwyd really .

Friend A, who lives locally and who I see to say hello to a couple of times a week and have a proper catch-up with a couple of times a month, has invited me and dh to local drinks in a few weeks time with a load of other people. I have said yes thank you, lovely.

Friend B, who I have known for 20 years longer than friend A, but who lives an hour away and who I see every four to six months, has invited me to a meal out with other older friends who I don't see often, on the same day, but this invite was received after friend A's invitation.

Wwyd?

Ok, thanks all. I will of course tell A why I can't go this time.

rearrange the meeting with your local friend so you get to meet them both

Why can't you ask A if B could go to the drinks thing too?

I'd feel absolutely gutted if a friend felt they needed to keep their prior engagement to me out of some strange insistence on 'correctness' rather than seeing someone who meant a great deal and whom they didn't see regularly! There's no way on earth I'd insist they saw me simply because I'd picked up the phone first. Good lord.