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To have smiled sweetly and said nothing to this school bully

515 replies

DrinkFromMyFountain · 05/09/2013 14:55

14 years ago I left school. There was one girl who made my life hell, said a load of nasty things about me and told me I would never amount to anything. She also said I'd end up single and Childless at 30 working in a shop. (NB I see nothing wrong with this, but it was meant in a horrible, nasty, put downy way). This was amongst various other things she said and did to try to make my life a misery.

This morning I took my car to the car wash and saw her working there washing cars.

I ordered my car wash for my naice car with my baby DS in the back and said "fancy seeing you here". She made a grimace of a face and carried on with her work.

Karma you beauty.

OP posts:
SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 06/09/2013 21:20

Portofino - that was entirely my fault - I was trying to be clever and failed.

SarahStrattonIsBackForJustABit · 06/09/2013 21:21

Oh I don't boohoo ever, and it never occurred to me that you'd consider violence over t'internets. Tough call, that one, dude.

Might want to apologise to SDTG though, seeing as you upset her

reelingintheyears · 06/09/2013 21:24

She was nasty raisah but I bet you don't think 'Oh, HaHaHa' about her circumstances.

DS2 was bullied, we moved his school in the end, some of the shit bags are still around here, one I saw working on a nearby building site as a labourer.
I don't think 'serves you right' I don't give them much though anymore.
Ds is great these days, off to uni next week and he's happy. Smile

AmazingBouncingFerret · 06/09/2013 21:24

No problem SDTG, feel rather shitty myself now other's have implied i'm not actually that nice a person. Might just bow out and have an early night.

AmazingBouncingFerret · 06/09/2013 21:26

And not sure why I said "no problem" Confused

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 06/09/2013 21:28

Please don't be upset, ABF. I have wine - shall I share?

Portofino · 06/09/2013 21:30

Yes, share wine, a thread about bullies where there is some highly unpleasant stuff going down.

HappyYoni · 06/09/2013 21:30

ABF I really don't think you've done anything wrong here at all...'twas just a misunderstanding, was quite clear you never meant no harm.

HappyYoni · 06/09/2013 21:31

Wine is a very good idea. Also a good idea are tacos and I have 12... Anyone want one?

MidniteScribbler · 06/09/2013 21:32

Why do we ask them to have compassion for the perpetrator? Because the perpetrator was a child.

In my case, the perpetrator was a teacher. An adult, working with impressionable teenagers. There is nothing acceptable about how she treated me, and it was unprofessional and downright cruel. The woman should be no where near a classroom. She was an adult, I was a 13/14 year old student under her care. I make no apologies for continuing to hate her.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 06/09/2013 21:33

I am nicely full of risotto, but I might open a bag of popcorn later.

reelingintheyears · 06/09/2013 21:34

Twelve tacos, all to yourself? Shock

I too have Wine

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Thanks the good lord it's virtual

AmazingBouncingFerret · 06/09/2013 21:36

Midnite, were you the poster who told your maths teacher you were working towards your phd in maths? I rather liked that story.

chocolateapple · 06/09/2013 21:40

I think I need another Cosmo after reading this Wine Sad

YourMaNoBraBackOfMyCar Love how you called her out on 'not knowing you' Grin

HappyYoni · 06/09/2013 21:43

Nooooo not all for me! 6 for me, 5 for the boyfriend and 1 for reelingintheyears...if anyone else would like one, or if reeling fancies a second, the boyfriend is quite happy to share more of his :)
Midnite I totally accept an adult abusing a child is different, that is utterly shameful of her.

MidniteScribbler · 06/09/2013 21:53

That was me Amazing Bouncing Ferret.

reelingintheyears · 06/09/2013 21:58

One's quite sufficient Happy , ta though. Smile
I already had fishcakes for dinner.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 06/09/2013 22:02

MidniteScribbler - your story made me smile so much. Perfect, perfect revenge, and well done you for doing so well despite her bullying!

HappyYoni · 06/09/2013 22:09

I am so full. I may not even be able to manage my chocolate buttons ice cream Shock

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 06/09/2013 22:10
Shock

I'll help!

HappyYoni · 06/09/2013 22:14

Go on then, you'll have to get it yourself tho, I am very busy groaning and clutching my stomach on the sofa. Top drawer of the freezer....go crazy!

SubliminalMassaging · 06/09/2013 22:34

Why are people so determined to miss the point?

If someone is vile to you and makes your life a misery, it is quite normal to wish them ill and be pleased to see that they aren't doing so well.

Why this determination to pity the perpetrator and criticize the victim? It's just plain weird.

I don't often wish for a 'like' button on MN but I really wish I could like this. ^^

MarmaladeTwatkins · 06/09/2013 22:51

"Why are people so determined to miss the point?

If someone is vile to you and makes your life a misery, it is quite normal to wish them ill and be pleased to see that they aren't doing so well."

Who is missing what point?

You said it yourself, "not doing so well". Why? Can you tell that someone is not doing so well because they work in a shop?

I know I am being like a dog with a bone here but I am frustrated at the piss weak justifications being made for gleefully sneering at someone's perceived misfortune.

HappyYoni · 06/09/2013 22:57

It may be normal for some people to wish them ill, but it is not universally true, many people do not wish bad things on others regardless of the history, especially when they were children when they were wankers.

Hullygully · 06/09/2013 22:58

And now what the fuck is going on?

The clash of not-so buried hatreds

Wow