To ask how you reply to someone who repeatedly cancels on you?

[addictedtofarmville]

My friend is quite flakey. She's nice enough though and I do enjoy her company when we meet up. Tonight she sent me yet another message cancelling a planned meet up tomorrow morning once we've dropped the kids at school. Rather than reply with my usual 'yeah that's no problem' I sent a text back saying that's a shame and that I'm disappointed as I turned down making plans with another friend as we already had it planned. She's come back with an apology but I think she's a bit annoyed with me. I get fed up of sitting on my hands though, I don't want her to think of me as a total pushover because I'm not.

AIBU to voice that I'm a bit peeved or is it more the done thing to just say it's fine and then not make any other plans with her?

I had a friend who was like this, and I kept saying 'No problem' like an idiot, over and over again. Even when she phoned to cancel as I was sat in Costa with a toddler and newborn in late December, armed with her DC's Xmas pressies (and had been sat there waiting for 30 mins already)

My fury was building, esp at the fact that I was allowing myself to be repeatedly humiliated and shown up to be a complete doormat! The problem was that I never could (and still can't) think of any response that wouldn't have been perceived as passive aggressive and (ironically!) wound her up.

The funny thing is that once I did pull back a bit she became irate and wrote me an email explaining how selfish and unreliable I was. I was actually thrilled as it gave me the opportunity to write a blistering email back, letting years of frustration and anger spill out.

Needless to say that was our last contact, but it was possibly the most therapeutic experience of my life!

Blimey OP.

Don't contact her again. She is no friend.

I am sure you have other friends who will actually turn up for arrangements.

Grrr....

"A fantastic time at Costa

Well that would take some doing."

People who post pictures of themselves in Costa and declaring themselves to be haing 'a fantastic time' have no business being in my life.

No matter how reliable or unreliable!