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To think that the health visitor should have known what 4 month sleep regression is?

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acer12 · 04/09/2013 21:54

I didn't know what it even was but when I posted on MN about my DD2 not sleeping, it was suggested by some fabulous ladies and it was a bloody revelation, I literately had a tick list of symptoms. She was waking every 90 mins through night and only cap napping during day and I was hallucinating! Googled advice and fixed the problems. Learning self settling, more sleep, swaddling...ect and it worked!

Went to get baby weighed, my usual lovely HV wasn't there and the HV that I spoke to about it was really Hmm about it and lectured me on the dangers of swaddling.

No one else seems to know either?! Mil was trying to force calpol down her convinced it was teething (luckily DH fended her off) as she was cranky ALL the time but she was just shattered!

is this widely known???

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FreudiansSlipper · 05/09/2013 21:36

i know books have been around

but ask them do they have a b

FreudiansSlipper · 05/09/2013 21:38

have a book for this, one for they were they bombarded with a new language, dream feeding, controlled crying, naughty step, time out, these are all terms that have been marketed but always used without a name

duchessandscruffy · 05/09/2013 21:44

I was shitting it about 'the 4 month sleep regression' after reading about it (on mn of course!). It never happened.

FondantNancy · 05/09/2013 21:50

...did our parents, grandparents buy books with a method to do this or that

My parents lived down the road from my grandparents, aunties, uncles blah blah. They had constant help and babysitting. I live about 10,000 miles from my nearest relative and am not close friends with anyone with children the same ages as mine. Books and the internet are all I've got, quite frankly!

FreudiansSlipper · 05/09/2013 21:58

i am not being critical i stated in earlier post that we have all bought into it

of course the internet and books are helpful but we have a name for everything now, new terms popping up all the time as children get older you tend to relax more and learn to go along with each phase children go through

best advice from my hv was to ignore the books and believe in yourself and your parenting skills

FondantNancy · 05/09/2013 22:16

best advice from my hv was to ignore the books and believe in yourself and your parenting skills

Maybe that works for others but I found my non existent parenting skills didn't really help with things like silent reflux and teething!

FondantNancy · 05/09/2013 22:16

oops strike out error.

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acer12 · 05/09/2013 22:22

And take no advice from anyone? fraud . Lucky you were so intuitive !

I had a talk with my dgm this afternoon and was [shocked] at some of the remedies they used for the babies! Something they used to use had chloroform in it to stop a irritating cough!! [shocked] and other stuff they had to sign poison book for! All for babies [ shocked ]

You can guff all you like, science moves on at a fast pace. New ideas , techniques are being formed every day! Is rather that than being stuck in the past.

I've not bought a book so I've not been ripped off, I was told it could be something, I went down that route and for merit works . If you don't believe it , I couldn't really care. I'm the one that now has a happy restfull baby.

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FreudiansSlipper · 05/09/2013 22:34

ok that came across smug

she meant following more this regime or worrying about something that is natural. when ds had colic of course yes i looked up what to do. you complained that your hv did not know about 4 month sleep regression well probably because not all babies go through it, it is a fairly new term and if not all babies go through it is it just a phase that has been given a name for some babies

LeBFG · 06/09/2013 12:22

Maybe that works for others but I found my non existent parenting skills didn't really help with things like silent reflux and teething! I really get this point. So many people think we have mummy skills hardwired into us which when it comes to practical things, like 'here is a crying baby, what do I do?' doesn't seem to wash.

However, I do think there's merit in not overthinking these things. That's why I think MN is superior to the parenting books because no one is proposing a miracle, cure-all solution (well, usually, unless you try asking about cranial osteopathy of course) - posters just say 'yes, we had that and everything turned out fine after a few months - why don't you try this it might help'. Reassurance and a few helpful pointers is often all we really need.

FondantNancy · 06/09/2013 13:31

LeBFG I remember my first night in the hospital with DD, in a druggy, post-c section haze. DD started crying and I had no idea what to do. A midwife came bustling in angrily and said "for god's sake, sort your baby out!" She might as well had told me to perform open heart surgery!

Agree about MN being superior. If baby's crying you get not only possible reasons but 20 possible solutions in real time.

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