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Original poster

to find it annoying when I'm looking at something in a store and someone leans over me?

75 replies

FlutteringButterflie · 03/09/2013 22:29

I know it's stupid but it really annoys me.

Today I was in Superdrug looking buying a nail varnish, two women stand behind really close behind me, leaning over me, one even had her arm resting on my should at one point.

I had been looking at the nail varnishs at the point for 20-30 seconds.

The other week I was shopping, looking through one rail of clothes on the wall trying to find my size when a woman starts shifting through the same rail, wandered off and then came back and did it again.

Unless someone is taking a ridiculous amount of time I could sort of understand, but when I want to look I patiently wait my turn until the person is done.

Aibu?

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Sirzy · 03/09/2013 22:32

She shouldn't have rested on you but how long exactly should others wait to look at things while you do?

I think you have to accept that others will also want to look a things at the same time as you.

Iamsparklyknickers · 03/09/2013 22:33

Oooo, tricky - I can't bare people in my space (about a 15 foot radius Grin), but then I don't want to start queuing at shelves when I shop...

I think you're a little UR, just budge over a bit and share the space.

percythepenguin · 03/09/2013 22:36

I recently accidently elbowed a women in the head in Tesco, she ducked in under my arm while I was reaching for a toothbrush on the top shelf and I clocked her on the head when I brought my arm down. I had no idea she was there but she did sort of deserve it, why not just wait a couple of seconds!

Toughtimes30 · 03/09/2013 22:38

Haha this bugs me too Grin

usualsuspect · 03/09/2013 22:41

Hmmm, tricky one. I do reach over people but I always say ' do you mind if I just grab a loaf or whatever'

NonnoMum · 03/09/2013 22:42

Oooh - thought it was just me that felt like this.

And it's getting worse too, isn't it?

MalcolmTuckersMistress · 03/09/2013 22:44

Oh the reduced sections in supermarkets are the worst for this! There should be a 20 second law of standing there before you are vaporised by a laser.

treaclesoda · 03/09/2013 22:47

I hate people invading my space too, but on the other hand, I can't expect them to mind read and know how long I'll be standing there for, so I can't blame them for reaching past me.

mumofboyo · 03/09/2013 22:48

I have been known to tut and say that if they'd asked, I'd have moved, or that an excuse me works rather than leaning around me or, worse, practically shoving me out of the way.

McRoo · 03/09/2013 22:54

This really annoys me too. It's all part of a greater bug bear of mine where no-one says "excuse me" anymore and just pushes past. I don't have eyes in the back of my head!! Grrrrr.

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FlutteringButterflie · 03/09/2013 23:05

Hmmm, tricky one. I do reach over people but I always say ' do you mind if I just grab a loaf or whatever'

Now that wouldn't bother me.

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Ilovemydogandmydoglovesme · 03/09/2013 23:09

I always say 'excuse me please' and explain whatever it is I'm reaching for. It's a bit rude to just invade someone's personal space just because you can't wait ten seconds for them to move, without apologising.

Fakebook · 03/09/2013 23:19

I whacked my elbow into a man's chest the other day when getting on the bus and turning around to push the pushchair. God knows how I did it, but he was way too close, and made a "ugh" sound when I hit him.
People don't need to get so close, yanbu.

Eilidhbelle · 03/09/2013 23:23

I HATE this and it happens to me all the time -maybe something to do with my height? I'm five foot on the nose. I always say 'oh sorry, am I in your way?' just to draw attention to the fact that I'm actually there.

SunshineMMum · 03/09/2013 23:24

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FlutteringButterflie · 03/09/2013 23:26

Well I'm 5 foot 6 Eilidhbelle so I think it's people are just rude haha.

I tutted at the woman who was leaning around me to get the skirt .... she left and then came back so I should really should have asked her if I was in her way.

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Kleptronic · 03/09/2013 23:32

I think it's some weird psychology thing comes over people, they're frightened of missing out on something I reckon.

What I do is go and stare a bit further down the shelf at something I don't want and sure as shit they end up down there with me lollygagging at stuff they don't want either, then I double back. When feeling particularly crowded and misanthropic I stare at the ceiling for a while and people will stare too. Although perhaps on reflection I'm a little extreme. One of these days I'll shout 'the sky is falling' then run away Grin

Hissy · 03/09/2013 23:38

Oh I hear you OP! Drives me loopy!

What really grates is how people shove my DS out of the way, no manners, just barge him.

I loudly parent on those occasions, stating "..and this is why it's important to use manners son, or we'll be thought of as rude and uncivilised eh?"

Mind you, however bad it gets here, Egyptian supermarkets still take the biscuit. There you get crowds of family members spectating while you shop. They want to see how much you spend, what you buy, and which brands you use.

Hilarious to recall, incredibly irritating to have to contend with! :)

Hissy · 03/09/2013 23:41

While we're at it.

Car Parks.

Why when you take the trouble to park away from everyone else, does some eejit come and park RIGHT next to you, when there are a bazillion free spaces everywhere around them?

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie · 03/09/2013 23:43

Yanbu ...I was looking in a mirror in a shop recently....holding an item in front of me when a woman stepped IN FRONT of me to do the same! I couldn';t stand it so I said "Excuse me,...I was using that mirror" and she said "Oh for God's sake! It's only a mirror!"

Shock Rude baggage she was!

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie · 03/09/2013 23:44

Fake I sometimes accidentally step back hard when people are right behind me...

Ilovemydogandmydoglovesme · 04/09/2013 00:33

Lol at 'Am I in your way?'

They say 'yes'.

You say 'Well wait your bloody turn then!'

Grin
Bogeyface · 04/09/2013 00:37

I hate this but I also hate slow shoppers who dither and cant make their fecking mind up!

So I say "Excuse me, sorry, can I just grab X?........Thanks" smile and leave.

Happy to not be rude but not happy to stand there like a lemon while someone does a full compare and contrast on bog roll!

TwoAndTwoEqualsChaos · 04/09/2013 01:32

I had a very civilised encounter over the reduced shelf today, waiting for the chap to mark them down further. I was obviously there first and waiting and we amiably discussed what we were after and passed each other things out of reach.