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AIBU?

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Original poster

to find it annoying when I'm looking at something in a store and someone leans over me?

75 replies

FlutteringButterflie · 03/09/2013 22:29

I know it's stupid but it really annoys me.

Today I was in Superdrug looking buying a nail varnish, two women stand behind really close behind me, leaning over me, one even had her arm resting on my should at one point.

I had been looking at the nail varnishs at the point for 20-30 seconds.

The other week I was shopping, looking through one rail of clothes on the wall trying to find my size when a woman starts shifting through the same rail, wandered off and then came back and did it again.

Unless someone is taking a ridiculous amount of time I could sort of understand, but when I want to look I patiently wait my turn until the person is done.

Aibu?

OP posts:
lougle · 04/09/2013 16:30

I proactively provide the person behind me with a divider ----

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FlutteringButterflie · 04/09/2013 17:05

Can't say if YABU - you obviously don't think you stepped in front of them but do you know for sure you didn't?!

I'm not stupid.

I was stood looking and I saw them approach from my left at the end of the aisle. Then both stood behind me and started reaching over and around me.

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BigBoobiedBertha · 04/09/2013 17:56

Ah well you didn't say in the OP that they approached whilst you were already standing in front of the shelves, you just said they were standing behind you.

Would you have preferred it if they stepped in front of you?

Actually I think YABU.

Do you really expect people to cue to look at a shelf? OK leaning on your shoulder isn't good but other that that I think you are expecting too much. They had no idea how long you were going to take and obviously you didn't shift over to give them a little bit of space. It doesn't take much thought just to be considerate to other people and share the shelves you know.

SlobAtHome · 04/09/2013 18:38

YABVVVU,. People like you bug me. You stand back to look at things so you aren't in anyone's way, then move forward when you decide what you want. Get it right! Honestly. :o

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie · 04/09/2013 18:43

Slob noooooooo! No way can you stand back to look at teeny tiny nail polish!

SlobAtHome · 04/09/2013 18:46

If you can't Neo might I suggest glasses!!?

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie · 04/09/2013 18:51

No you may not! I have perfect vision thank you! Not long tested...no, I need to touch the bottles, hold them up to the light and consider them at close range.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 04/09/2013 18:52

This has never happened to me - not that I remember anyhow. Instead I get people who walk between me and the shelf - and I don't stand miles back either - they pretty much have to squeeze past me. If I notice them about to do it, I quickly reach towards the shelf to bar their way. If I don't notice in time, I wander off wondering if I am invisible! As I am almost as wide as I am tall, I find this hard to believe, but apparently I am.

orangeandemons · 04/09/2013 18:55

Britain as a nation is under shopped, ie it doesn't have enough shops for its citizens. The ones it does have are crowded, hence the leaning over etc.

I was in Waterstones looking at books with dd, in a corner. 13 people appeared from ow here and tried to get in the corner. Reaching over and under ( 5 shelves of books on 2 sides). It was like some giant game of Twister, and so rude. I retreated.

I also hate when you are bending over to look at something, and your bum bangs into someone, because isles are too narrow. Boots is the biggest culprit here

AthelstaneTheUnready · 04/09/2013 18:57

Someone rammed me out of the way the other week with their trolley. I hadn't been there long (gazing at the Total yoghurt looking for the stray full fat one) - and she just pushed her trolley into my hip, carried on pushing both me and it, and then stopped in front of the same yoghurts to have a gawp!

I said "excuse me!", she said "fuck off", so not an entirely satisfactory exchange.

imnotmymum · 04/09/2013 18:58

And at the card machine really at Aldi and the couple just was right at the checkout seriously I doubt they were card thieves but let me finish my bloody shopping !

Saffyz · 04/09/2013 19:29

YANBU. How hard is it to give a friendly smile and say "excuse me, could I just reach the tomatoes for a second?"

Parmarella · 04/09/2013 20:36

The worst leaning over I ever did was in the cinema, forget I was wearing my hair loose, and bent over to get my bag and this poor men had all my hair falling onto his shoulder/face. He took it well.

I am not good with personal space as a concept. I am not British, it was not rammed into me from birth. I need to work on this, clearly!

Parmarella · 04/09/2013 20:39

Argelstane, as an aside, what IS the point of 0% fat total yoghurt?! Wanted to buy full fat yesterday (probably invading loads of anxious shoppers' personal space in the process) but there was none.

themaltesefalcon · 04/09/2013 20:47

Don't change, Parmarella.

It's you and me against the world.

Parmarella · 04/09/2013 20:56

Good! Will you join me in Waitrose next time?

I am planning to semi-accidentally queue-jump a Bodenesque lady in the cafeteria queue, and then just beam at her whilst she mutters "rude!rude!" Under her breath. Until I ask is anything the matter and she will say icily "not at all"

...or maybe I already did that once .....

HeffalumpTheFlump · 04/09/2013 21:32

Ugh I had this today. I was looking at birthday cards and a woman blocked me from moving with her buggy and then stood rediculously closely to me to get to the same cards. I had no choice but to stay completely in her way as I couldn't move for the buggy! I would have happily moved along if I could have. Instead I ended up squished up against her. I didn't like it.

AthelstaneTheUnready · 04/09/2013 21:39

I have no idea Parmerella. I asked one of those helpful bods if they'd check in the storeroom for full-fat, but no joy. Just heaps and heaps of UNSOLD 0% fat Total, and a great gaping gap where all the TOTALLY SOLD OUT POPULAR full-fat Total should have been. Why says market forces work, eh?

And frankly, if I had as much hair as I'm imagining you have, I'd be swishing it over men every chance I got.

TwoAndTwoEqualsChaos · 04/09/2013 22:08

Mumofboyo and Downstairs this was, slightly bizarrely, a Morrison's we were only in as an end of holiday treat as it is their preferred supermarket café and they did their second mark down of the day about 2pm ........ I cited it as unique experience in the world of bargain hunting .....

Btw, Mumofboyo, my 2 1/2 year-old came back from Wales last weekend calling her brothers "boy", with a wobble on the end that makes it sound like "boyo"........!

mumofboyo · 04/09/2013 22:36

I sometimes wonder, TwoAndTwo, if the vultures bargain hunters actually want the items they come away with, because it seems to me that they grab something without considering what it is and are happyjjust to get something.

I'm actually a yorkshire lass but dh's dad's side of the family are Welsh and I've heard them call ds what sounds like 'boyo' on a few occasions, and something I must've picked up! Ds tries to talk with a Welsh accent, but I think that's more to do with Fireman Sam than family connections lol

frownyface · 05/09/2013 05:20

I went shopping last week and stopped in my wheelchair to look at some items on a shelf, a women actually moved my wheelchair away from the shelf! Shock I was mad as hell and said' I wouldnt dream of pushing you out of the way how dare you push me!" she looked ashamed of herself (she bloody well should have!) and mumbled an apology. Makes me angry just thinking about it grrr. I had only stopped for a few seconds too it wasn't even like I was hogging the aisle!

mrsfuzzy · 05/09/2013 08:32

ilovemydog....love the comment!

GeppaGip · 05/09/2013 08:57

I find it annoying when people stand in front of something i need, blocking the entire space around them with their. precious trolley, then huff and puff when i ask if i an just grab whatever is behind them. And what if I want to look too? Should I just stand behind you like a wally, blocking the aisle, until you decide you have finished. How about you standback or too the side? Grin

Saffyz · 05/09/2013 09:06

frownyface that's unbelievable Shock

HeffalumpTheFlump · 05/09/2013 09:08

Frownyface - Shock what the hell was she thinking?! I'm really glad you gave her a piece of your mind!

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