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Mamma TJ is 46 today.

31 replies

MammaTJ · 03/09/2013 09:18

And off to uni in a couple of weeks to start a nursing degree.

I have done care work all my life and love it, I have recently finished an access course and was amazed by how much I enjoyed it.

I had a major crisis in my life when I hit 30 as I was so unfulfilled. I only had one child and wanted more, my then DH did not. I wanted to study, but he didn't see the point. I was slogging away at a job doing four nights a week, 48 hours and had little support.

By the time I hit 40, things had improved, my H had left me by then, I had met DP and we had had two children, the last one two days after my 39th birthday.

I found out about the access course and my DP encouraged me to go for it. He even made me sandwiches for lunch on the first day and put a lovely note in with them, encouraging me and wishing me luck.

He encouraged me to apply to three universities, saying we would move if I didn't get the first choice, which offers placements near to us. I will have to stay at the city uni is during uni times, but will be able to be at home when I have placement, luckily. He will be taking care of our DC, while working and using a little bit of childcare.

I know the next three years will be tough on the whole family, but we will get through it as a family and with the constant encouragement of my 18 year old DD1 too.

Anyone in a tough place right now, life can get better. It really can. Hang on in there, work at it, if you can, or just weather the storm if that is all you can manage for now.

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ThreesyDoesIt · 03/09/2013 09:23

Happy birthday Flowers

And good luck with uni, nice to hear you can turn things around and get where you want in life. Your dp sounds so supportive and lovely.

DizzyPurple · 03/09/2013 09:29

Sounds great. Lovely to hear positive stories. Good luck with the nursing. I am a nurse and it can be a very rewarding job (if you keep out of the politics and rubbish bits!) Patients and families can be lovely though, you stand a good chance of finding that fulfilment you need. Hope all goes well.

WallaceWindsock · 03/09/2013 09:33

Happy Birthday! It's my birthday today too, I'm 23 today! Feeling a tad grumpy though as DP is in the middle of revising for an accountancy exam so we aren't celebrating until next weekend. DD and I have blown up some balloons and are going to have a lazy day.

WineAnd Thanks for us both Mamma! Hope you have a lovely day. Smile

waikikamookau · 03/09/2013 09:34

what a lovely positive story.
very best of luck, and happy birthday Flowers and Cake for you Grin

MammaTJ · 03/09/2013 09:42

Opp, just realised I posted in AIBU, not chat!! May be too stupid for uni after all! Grin

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MammaTJ · 03/09/2013 09:43

Happy Birthday Wallace, half my age! Grin

No Wine for me today, as working a night shift tonight, but that's ok!

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SPsTotallyMullerFuckingLicious · 03/09/2013 09:44

Woe you are a dinosaur! Grin

In all seriousness Happy Birthday, well done and good luck!

DropYourSword · 03/09/2013 09:45

Congratulations. Lovely story. Best of luck with your degree.

MCos · 03/09/2013 09:46

AIBU is a nice place to read of your story!

Happy Birthday and good luck with the nursing.

MerryMarigold · 03/09/2013 09:47

That's great. One of the benefits of going through milestones (20,30,40 and beyond) is that you can see how your life changes. I think by the time I'm 50, I'll be able to write a post like yours!

MammaTJ · 03/09/2013 09:47

SP, I knew you would be along at some point with a comment like that! Thank you, I think. Hmm

Thanks all!

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MammaTJ · 03/09/2013 09:48

Merry, how old are you now? What is it you want to do?

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ImFineThankYou · 03/09/2013 09:49

Congratulations good luck and happy birthday! Thanks

MrsBungle · 03/09/2013 09:50

Happy Birthday Thanks

Wine

Good luck with your degree!

Celadorhasacatandawaveequation · 03/09/2013 09:52

Happy Birthday Flowers.

What a lovely, uplifting story! I'm sure you'll be a great nurse Smile.

SPsTotallyMullerFuckingLicious · 03/09/2013 09:52

birthday treat!

BigBoobiedBertha · 03/09/2013 09:53

Happy birthday!

What an inspiring story. You need to go over to the thread on what age 'old' starts and tell them you story. Somebody reckons it is 50 Shock. I think you have proved single-handedly that it really isn't.

Good luck with the nursing. I hope you enjoy every second!

Celadorhasacatandawaveequation · 03/09/2013 09:54

Thanks SP . I need brain bleach!

DiaryOfAWimpyMum · 03/09/2013 10:56

Your OP reminds me of the saying:

It's not about weathering the storm it's about learning how to dance in the rain.

This OP gives me hope I'm 40 this year and feeling a bit hugely meh about life, work etc.

Happy Birthday and well done. Flowers

SoleSource · 03/09/2013 11:01

Thanks Happy Birthday MammaTJ xxxx

You're such an inspiration and I am so pleased that you are going to UNI.

I want to do an English Literature degree soon.

I wish you all the best wishes x

SoleSource · 03/09/2013 11:02

Wine Cake

LadyMacbethWasMisunderstood · 03/09/2013 11:21

Happy birthday. 46 is the best age in the world! Though I shall soon have to get used to 47!

MammaTJ · 03/09/2013 12:31

SP, I know better than to click on links you put up! Grin

Diary plenty of time to improve things.

Sole, as I think I said on another thread,go for it.

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SPsTotallyMullerFuckingLicious · 03/09/2013 13:48

Grin You are missing out. It will be the high light of your birthday. Accept the gift, embrace it!

MammaTJ · 03/09/2013 13:51

I think given Celadors reaction and my prior knowledge of you I can live without! Thanks anyway! Grin

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