not to be dd's friend's bank! DD and her friend, both 16 love going to concerts

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and it has been muggins here booking the tickets mainly, apparently dd's friend's mum cannot book tickets This has gone on from concert tickets btw to any form of internet booking, ie. they wanted a couple of skateboards ordered on line, I asked for the money first, and low and behold they money from dd's friend was 95p short, the object was 16.95, and she in her wisdom decides it is 16, and that the 95 p doesn't matter.

ok her family are hard up, but so are we, and increasingly so.
but her friend takes the biscuit, I ask for the money and have to nag dd to ask her friend,
so then I say get money first,
but the most recent event I booked from the wrong card, and luckily realised in time to transfer the money.
however even if I get the cash the money needs to be in the bank.

If they want to go to a concert any time soon, if I don't book my dd and her friend's tickets, I doubt they will be able to go so AIBU to refuse to book any more of dd's friends online purchases.

Cant you just get the money first before you book or order?

YANBU.

16 is old enough to understand how Internet purchases/booking tickets/money leaving the bank account works. No money upfront - no ticket. Just say no, it really is that simple.

Plus who is paying the inevitable £5 or so booking/postage fee?

Maybe the mum does not have a credit/debit card?

Get the money first, and ensure you tell her the price including both vat and postage...

Don't book them till you get the cash upfront.
If her friend can't afford it, then she can't go.

Of course YANBU. Either wait until you have the money from the friend, or just book for your DD (if she's prepared to risk going alone).

I think I would insist on the money at least a week before I bought the tickets/items so I could make sure the money was in the bank.
I think as long as your DD friend has given you the money beforehand I think its fine to carry on.
But if they havent given you it..dont do it.

If the money isn't there, then they can't go.

Simples.

Definitely refuse to do any more general online buying for them. So no more skateboards etc. For concerts say you need the cash 3 days before you book or it won't be happening. YANBU.

The girls are able to have a bank account of their own at that age with a debit card.

I got DS an account with Nat West when he was 14. He is able to use a debit card on line and in shops. He cannot go overdrawn on it.

Maybe they need to be more self sufficient and can sort out these things themselves.

I am the one who books tickets for my DD's friends, if it is something that is going to sell out and the family doesn't get paid until afterwards then I speak to the parents directly and sort it out.

Are you sure that the girl isn't pocketing the difference?

I am happy to book the tickets, especially of my DD wants to go somewhere.

I just keep in contact with the parents of her two main friends about cost etc.

Even at 16 I would do this, if the young person isn't earning her own money, my youngest is 16.

It depends on the circumstances, many teens on MN seem to have part time jobs, where I live there is little work available for teens, so independence is imposible.

Yes. Say that you cam(t book tickets or anything else until they have given you the money.

If there's a big panic about tickets selling out, they need to save in advance so that they've got the money ready.

but The last time I got the money first, it was short, and then I used my wrong card,

so I am getting rather stroppy in saying No more booking.
the money needs to be in the bank, what do I do with the cash, it goes like water.

And yes make sure you add in half the booking fee to what they owe you.

good idea, my dd does work and she does have a bank account, not sure if I am happy about her making internet purchases tbh but that is a suggestion that might work. and I believe she isn't allowed to go overdrawn.

At 16 they can have a bank account with a debit card and book their own tickets. Both my DSs age 17 and 16 do this. The card is just a standard visa debit card but obviously every payment is authorised and they aren't able to go overdrawn.

The money means all the money. So if it's short, don't book. But don't book anyway if you don't want to.

I would threaten to sell tickets. We bought some tickets for dds friend. Mum kept saying she had sent the money but it didnt arrive. Im the end we did get the cheque, we only released tickets once the cheque had cleared.
Those tickets were going for 3 times the price on the internet.

Some concerts won't allow under 18's to book, the ticket integrity etc does not apply to under 18's.

My youngest is into Goth bands and age restrictions apply.

My DD has been refused PayPal purchases.

I think it is a case of speaking to the parents and if youvare not on speaking terms I wouldn't be letting my 16 year old go to concerts with them tbh.

She's old enough to be doing this herself, I certainly was way before this age. You must however ensure she does not start subbing her friend.

But if they are not working them what difference does having their own bank account make, you are the one putting the money in and still being out of pocket?

Some people are of an income level that savings are not possible.

birds
what do I say to parent?
please can you book because I can't afford it?
yikes.
I spose I could

She left you short of 95p.

I'm not sure where you using the wrong card can be attributed to anyone but yourself, tbh. . What's that about?
I'm also assuming that you'd be doing the bookings on your dd's behalf anyway, so it not solely for the friend's benefit?? Aren't you slightly over reacting?

You can get a pre-paid card from the post office.

As the kids would say, you're being mugged off

if a purchase is 16.95, you don't pay someone £16 for it. in my book. and it was my daughter she short changed. seems bloody stupid/bloody cheeky to me.

what is this pre-paid card waltz