not to be dd's friend's bank! DD and her friend, both 16 love going to concerts

[waikikamookau]

and it has been muggins here booking the tickets mainly, apparently dd's friend's mum cannot book tickets This has gone on from concert tickets btw to any form of internet booking, ie. they wanted a couple of skateboards ordered on line, I asked for the money first, and low and behold they money from dd's friend was 95p short, the object was 16.95, and she in her wisdom decides it is 16, and that the 95 p doesn't matter.

ok her family are hard up, but so are we, and increasingly so.
but her friend takes the biscuit, I ask for the money and have to nag dd to ask her friend,
so then I say get money first,
but the most recent event I booked from the wrong card, and luckily realised in time to transfer the money.
however even if I get the cash the money needs to be in the bank.

If they want to go to a concert any time soon, if I don't book my dd and her friend's tickets, I doubt they will be able to go so AIBU to refuse to book any more of dd's friends online purchases.

Floggingmolly, op maybe able to afford to pay out for one ticket, not two. We had to wait long after the credit card needed paying for the money for pur tickets. We were only payimg for one out of four tickets. My mum paid for dds ticket and dds friend and her mum had two tickets. We funded those tickets for months and concert is not until 19th this month. The tickets are going for over a hundred pound now.
I have threatened to sell dds on a few occassions

If you are short 95p and it bothers you, then woman up and tell her!
If you are paid up front correctly, then I can't see it being an issue, but if you don't want the hassle, then don't do it.
However, allowing her to get away with underpaying and then whining about it? Blaming them for your mistake in using the wrong account? Yabu

Think some people on this thread are struggling to see the bigger picture.

Definitely don't do it unless you have full payment (including 50% of any extra costs), you would not be unreasonable to ask for this in advance so you can put it in your bank before making the payment.

Insist on having the money upfront before booking. I dare say one missed concert and she'll suddenly be able to remember.

so am I expected to contact dd's friend for 95p? how awkward is that. my dd has to be the go between.

so the opinion seems ask for the money first, then I have to bank it, am I unreasonable to say an outright No and see if dd's friend's mother book some tickets, the mum does work, perhaps she doesn't have a credit card but she surely has a bank account?

but we will see, one missed concert booking and they may well change their tune/attitude.

Just tell the friend face to face that you want paying upfront.
Then it's up to her.

I would write down the cost of the ticket plus 50% of any booking fee on and a deadline for getting the money to you and give it to the mother or daughter.

Or send a text to them both with the same information on it.

If it doesn't materialise, or is short, send another message, or note, saying it is short by x amount and you will buy the tickets when you get it.

I'm in a situation at the moment where a friend has been taking me for a mug and it turns out she has been doing it to other people too.

If you don't take a stand then you will become increasingly resentful.

good idea to send a text myself. to girl and possibly her mother. I could explain I need the money in advance and am skint see how that goes

95p is 95p. I don't like not paying my way and I don't like others not paying my way. I have, for various reasons, a lot more money than some people and am often tempted to waive what is owed. But if you start that people assume that you will always do it. You are not teaching your daughter or her friend any good lessons by letting her off any part of what you are spending on their behalf. Just say that you are a bit short (which might well be true) and that you need all of the money before booking. I think it is unlikely that the other mother doesn't have a card/bank account. I bet your daughter says "Don't worry, my Mum will pay". Either way the kid is in the wrong not to repay you fully. And skateboards, etc? No,no,no.

Waiki don't forget you are doing them the favour not the other way round. if they don't like you saying that you want the money upfront, tough.

Freeloaders rely on us feeling too uncomfortable to ask too!

At 16 they are old enough to do themselves but if it is a long time friend of DDs I know from experience they sometimes see you as an extension of their own parents. In that case the 95p wouldnt be a deal breaker for me but would be if I didnt know the girl so well. Probably not explaining myself too well - I am just thinking of boys my DsS have had as pals since they were young who have grown up with us.
I would say texting the mum and explaining things are a bit tight just now and could she do some of the bookings might be a plan? If she doesn't have a credit card and cannot do this at least she will be more aware that the money needs to paid, and in full, sharpish.

the other suggestion is that they go to the venue, and buy the tickets with cash! and of course dd's friend's (mother, since her friend does not work) again is probably too skint to go the actual venue.
but it is a suggestion I might make