to ask if giving a diamond after the birth of a (boy) baby is an English tradition?

[Blueberryveryberry]

I'm forrin, so I heard a friend talking about this, is it true?

DH is English, so I want to find out if I'm 'owed' a diamond

Well, if it is I'm owed two diamonds and whatever you are supposed to get for a girl.

I got a box of maltesers that he ate most of git. Money is always so tight around the birth of the baby as you are having to nip and get stuff that you forgot you needed or have already ran out of that there is never money left over for posh presents

I got an eternity ring. I wouldn't get another one for subsequent births though

I got an engagement ring whilst pregnant. Does that count?

Is this is Wikipedia piss take!?

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Push_present

It seems to be repeated in several "articles" as a reference.

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Push_present
Try linking again

My husband doesn't like diamonds so he won't buy me any . I tell him that I like them but it doesn't seem to cut any ice with him . Academic anyway as we certainly don't have the money to buy even a tiny one.

I've heard of this, although only with a couple of friends. One suggested that she was owed an eternity ring after producing "an heir and a spare" for her husband, ie to carry on the family name. She didn't, she had two girls but still got the whopping diamond eternity ring.
I remember growing up that my mum got one but only after 25 years of marriage - she deserved it.
When I gave birth to our first, I got a Sky plus box. My second is due before Christmas, so we'll see if I'm dripping in diamonds...?

My feeling on eternity rings is that they should be given as a gift of great meaning between a couple and for some that may well be on the birth of a first child. For my father, it was when my mum pulled through an operation she that had been given a less than 5% chance of surviving, about six months after I was born. She spent a total of 9 months in hospital before and after I was born and frankly we were both lucky to be alive at all. So he gave it to her when she came home permanently. It was a then £50 job from H Samuel I think, not a flash or fancy thing, but it meant they had a life together, a chance that could so easily have been taken away. In short it meant eternity to them. And to me, too.

carpe do people really have C sections with no pain relief? Jesus you are hardcore.

I'm happy to pay for my own pushing present (I'm the higher earner) but I would really like DH2B to design me a nice emerald ring from the same place we had our wedding rings made.

I'm owed two diamonds My friend insisted on an eternity ring when her first was born as that is the 'tradition'. She got one too.

I always thought an eternity ring was usually an anniversary gift at some point down the line or that's what DH is telling me, he says we haven't clocked up enough years yet

Yes I thought that's what the eternity ring tradition was for, to complete collection the rings which represent betrothal, marriage and finally birth.

I had my last dc 39 years ago and the custom was definitely just flowers. An eternity ring was after 10 years of marriage. I didn't get one as he was ill. My present dh had a ring made for me on Valentines day when we had been married just over 10 years.

Diamond (rings) are the "tradition" for 60 yrs marriage, what with it being known as the Diamond Wedding anniversary and all.
The whole it's for 10yrs marriage is new, maybe because people don't think they'll get to 60 either through death (people get married much later these days) or divorce.

Eternity rings are to celebrate life time commitment (at any point pre or post marriage) and don't have to be diamond (just never ending). Unfortunately as previously mentioned someone came up with 'ooh this could be a nice symbol for celebrating a child's birth' and off everyone went.

Slightly off topic but when I was in hospital after dd and DH and his mum were responsible for DS (3.5) for three days they went out and bought a video recorder and six vidoes (you know: Thomas the Tank, BBC compendium, Brum, rosie and Jim, Tots TV and Elizabeth 1st and Lawrence of Arabia. I hadn't wanted the DC addicted to TV but it was fab, a novelty for DS and made BF and a new born and looking after DS so much easier. I was cross at first but it beat jewellery hands down!!

They also don't have to go all the way round. I have 7 stones and more would be a waste of diamonds and money. :)

There's no such thing as a waste of diamonds

Dh has given me diamonds from Tiffanys after the birth of each child. however what i loved the most was the ring he got me after dc1. dh went out and scoured all over town for it so that I could sit down with 3rd degree tears. It was a donut ring.

Damn, where's my diamond?!

I got a cheesecake when DS was born, tbf I did demand the cheesecake..

Well I'd rather spend 2k on diamond ear studs than on 9 diamonds nobody can see on the underside of my finger Novice. Therefore a full ring does, imo, equal waste. But I am Vair frugal

Yes I got diamonds when mine were born. Family tradition on both sides.