to ask if giving a diamond after the birth of a (boy) baby is an English tradition?

[Blueberryveryberry]

I'm forrin, so I heard a friend talking about this, is it true?

DH is English, so I want to find out if I'm 'owed' a diamond

CarpeVinum, Given C, I'm not surprised you liked A!

(Had a c-section myself, not having a dig!)

I got a bag of food from Greggs after dd was born! Bloody delicious it was too. I dont even wear my engagement or wedding bands so an eternity ring would be wasted on me.

I'm almost 40 and my mum used to wind my dad up that she had never got an eternity ring. Although I am nearly sure she mentioned getting it on the first birthday of her first born (me). She used to roll her eyes and say it was because she had girls.

He got her one on their 25th wedding anniversary, she then gave me it when I had dd1.

My husband has always gone down the DVD, book route as well as vast amounts of food

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/a1784162-Did-you-get-a-push-present

I got an eternity ring. When I say I "got" one, I earned one and therefore demanded one

DH asked me what a maternity ring was when I tried to heavily hint at wanting an eternity ring.

I still don't have one!! To be honest we have been cash strapped and since it has been 7 years since DS1 and now there's 3 I can wait a little longer because now I will hint
demand and bloody nice one with really sparkly expensive diamonds.

I got one after DS was born because its traditional in DH'a family to get a diamond solitaire (I got an eternity ring instead) for the first boy. It's also traditional for them to buy each child a gemstone before they're born which is used for their future wife's engagement ring if a boy and given to them to do as they please if a girl. Not sure what the mother gets for a girl....guess I'll find out!

DH is French....so I wouldn't say it's an English tradition. I just thought it was his family!

I knew someone would find that thread! That was ace.

I agree with a poster on there that I would really like a helium balloon next time.

Maternity ring... Ha ha.. That is sweet I have to say

DD bought a helium balloon when her brother was born. The hospital wouldn't let her bring it in.

DH bought fish and chips for me after dd was born. Bloody lovely they were.

I thought eternity rings were given for a first child. That's what some of the (older) ladies I used to work with used to say, anyway. I hadn't heard of them until then! One of my NCT group was given one by her husband.

I think the so called push present is a newer thing - though I don't actually know anyone who's received one. I'm in the US and there are 9 out of 14 of us at playgroup pregnant with second babies right now so I'll do some research over the coming months!

I got a ring from DH's granny that had been given to her mother when she had first child, and to granny when she had FIL. She didn't pass it to MIL because they don't get on, so it skipped a generation and went to me for producing her first great- grandchild, and I hope one day I'll pass it to the mother of my first grandchild. That's a nice family tradition.
DH did buy me flowers for the first time ever
I thought eternity rings were for 10/15/some large significant wedding anniversary?

Not JUST after a boy! Girls are fucking just as good you know.

Really don't understand the concept of feeling you've 'earned' a diamond/push present for giving birth, if its a complete surprise gift its one thing, but if you ask for it intjink its wrong! I had far more important things on my mind after having DC. What's next? Snip presents for those whose DH get a vasectomy

Carpe imagine the size on the rock you'd get!

Ooh, this means I am owed five, soon six, diamonds. I NEED MY DIAMONDS.

I got five but it was our fifth wedding anniversary, my fortieth and the arrival of our long awaited DS after much disappointment.

I got a Double Decker and a packet of Uncle Joe's Apple Balls.

5 years and still waiting for my ring, apparently food in our tummies and a roof over our head is more important!

As others have said yes an eternity ring is tradition on the birth of your 1st child

Do you think such debts apply to exs?

I've nly ever seen this on here. The first time i saw it, some jewellery was linked to which was set with either a pink or blue diamond, plus engraved with the date of birth of the baby! Super expensive it was too.

My ex doesjt even pay maintenance so I'm not sure ill get 2 diamonds from him.

According to my friend, its an eternity ring for either 10years marriage or after the first baby boy (yes only the boy which I think is rediculous) which ever comes first.
This is the reason she chose a plain wedding band as she wanted the eternity ring to stand out, so even when engaged she was planning the third ring. I was very when I found this out about her.

As with all things engagement / wedding ring etc related it was a marketing campaign that is now taken as gospel.

If a normal diamond is for a boy then maybe I should get a pink Diamond for having my girl?.....

Please will someone start a thread saying this is true and others comment agreeing then I can show dh.

After all if it's on MN then it must be true.

I've definitely heard of this as a tradition within the traveller community. I used to work at a Catholic school and the children's First Holy Communion Mass was a really big deal. I remember a colleague commenting about the number of diamonds worn by a traveller mother with a large number of children.

Eternity rings were a marketing ploy 'tradition' created in the 1960s by a diamond company (what a surprise).

What?

All I got was a bunch of dead flowers and a bottle of Lilt....I feel hard done by with the mention of food from greggs, nevermind diamonds!