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To not take DD to this party

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DDDDDORA · 31/08/2013 09:07

DD2 4 has been invited to a birthday party today. She would occasionally play with the girl at nursery but they aren't really friends and haven't had any contact over the summer. The venue is a 30 minute drive away and I'm not sure if I am going to be able to stay with her because the invite stated Please leave your child where possible as we have limited space, She won't stay on her own as she is quite shy. I did RSVP to say she was going and that I would have to stay with her, which I never had a reply to. Would I be unreasonable to not go, as I don't want to drive all the way there and be told I can't stay.

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DizzyCow63 · 31/08/2013 19:35

How rude! I'd be furious in your shoes OP. hope she has a good excuse!

Sleepyhead33 · 31/08/2013 19:37

Clutching at straws here as I can't believe anyone could be so rude, but have you checked your spam emails incase she let you know via email (since that is how you rsvpd) and it didn't reach you?
Though the fact that there were others there suggests not. How rude and annoying but well done you for doing the right thing.

IwishIwasmoreorganised · 31/08/2013 19:40

Dreadful.

Are your dd's at a school nursery? This mum will have to work hard to shake off this!

Any response yet?

InternationalPower · 31/08/2013 20:10

I have a friend, just turned 48, who still refuses to do anything at all to mark his birthday because of the trauma of his summer holiday birthday being ignored when he was a child, so you would have been VU not to go, but I can't believe what happened!

There must be an explanation, even the most flaky mum wouldn't just let people turn up, would they? I do need to know what the explanation is though Didn't the venue know why the party was cancelled?

EvaBeaversProtege · 31/08/2013 20:20

She's rude!!

I hate parties as my mam promised me one when I was about 9... I invited my best friend from school (to arrive @ 4pm after school)

I don't know how I failed to notice any party prep going on or lack of

Friend arrived all dressed up with a present and my man was so baffled & embarrassed. Friend ended up joining us for our dinner (chips, peas, sausages) yes, I still remember this....

She told everyone @ school the next day it was the worst party she was ever at.

I should have known mam was just nodding & not listening- I knew none of my 7 siblings ever had a party, dunno what I thought made me different.

sisterofmercy · 31/08/2013 20:39

Aww Eva - That's quite sad. :(

exoticfruits · 31/08/2013 22:50

This sort of thread proves who bothers to read it! I can't see the point in saying how dreadful not to go when OP had already gone and then found it a wasted journey!

QOD · 31/08/2013 23:01

No response yet?

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DDDDDORA · 01/09/2013 01:57

No response yet and I don't really expect one, but if she does then I will let you know. Some sad birthday stories on here I am an early summer hols baby myself and never had a party either, so I make sure both my DD's have one. DD was fine when she went to bed so I'm happy about that. The balloons were taken down by the time I came home tonight so I hoping the little girl did have some kind of celebration.

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coco27 · 01/09/2013 08:41

You have accepted and should follow through

SPBisResisting · 01/09/2013 08:51

Read the thread coco!

Alisvolatpropiis · 01/09/2013 08:58

How very odd of her!

CatAmongThePigeons · 01/09/2013 09:04

How rude of birthday girls mum!

LadyGoodman · 01/09/2013 09:05

Glad u r going people not turning up after saying they will is pretty crappy and am sure you don't like it happening to you.

I sympathise though Sunday's r for lazy days

SPBisResisting · 01/09/2013 09:34

Shes been. Party had been cancelled with no warning.

Vivacia · 01/09/2013 10:16

Oh for goodness' sake. RTFT.

IJustNeedANap · 01/09/2013 10:20

That's terrible to just cancel, I don't think that she's going to be very popular on the play ground!

LadyGoodman · 01/09/2013 13:25

Aw and after u got out of your lazy day mentality poor show party mum!!

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DDDDDORA · 01/09/2013 22:04

No response yet I'm not sure if I have the right number as she changes hers regularly. Iwish - the little girl was in nursery and is going to be in the same reception class as DD but they don't start until the 9th Sep maybe I'll get an answer then. International - the venue said they had tried most of the summer to get hold of the mum but couldn't, then the mum called the day before to say she had cancelled it. Its all abit weird

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Justforlaughs · 01/09/2013 22:11

Sounds more than a BIT weird tbh. I'd have had to knock on the door on my way back, just to check that everything was ok be nosy and make a point

Dancergirl · 02/09/2013 19:11

Did you find out any more about it OP?

Coconutty · 02/09/2013 19:18

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

jeanmiguelfangio · 02/09/2013 20:56

Shamelessly marking my

jeanmiguelfangio · 02/09/2013 20:57

Place- stupid phone!

Maybe she couldn't afford it, doesn't mean she couldn't actually tell people it was cancelled. She could of said any other reason rather than that

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DDDDDORA · 02/09/2013 23:46

No sorry nothing at all, I might see her at the school on Wed when I drop DD1 off as she sometimes takes a friends kids in but if not then I prob won't see her until Monday. I do think it was a money thing as she is a single sahm but it doesn't excuse not letting people know

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