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To not take DD to this party

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DDDDDORA · 31/08/2013 09:07

DD2 4 has been invited to a birthday party today. She would occasionally play with the girl at nursery but they aren't really friends and haven't had any contact over the summer. The venue is a 30 minute drive away and I'm not sure if I am going to be able to stay with her because the invite stated Please leave your child where possible as we have limited space, She won't stay on her own as she is quite shy. I did RSVP to say she was going and that I would have to stay with her, which I never had a reply to. Would I be unreasonable to not go, as I don't want to drive all the way there and be told I can't stay.

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Original poster
DDDDDORA · 31/08/2013 17:26

Ok I'm going to text her, will let you know

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LIZS · 31/08/2013 17:27

I'd have rung from the venue and asked if you perhaps had day/time wrong

SirBoobAlot · 31/08/2013 17:29

She cancelled the party, didn't tell anyone but has balloons up outside the house?

That's really odd...

Mckayz · 31/08/2013 17:30

I am so glad you posted this thread as it made me remember that DS2 is at party tomorrow afternoon!! Thanks!

Very strange about the party being cancelled.

BoffinMum · 31/08/2013 17:32

Good grief, how strange. Please do keep us posted.

InTheRedCorner · 31/08/2013 17:32
Shock
lljkk · 31/08/2013 17:35

:(

ihearsounds · 31/08/2013 17:36

A few years ago, similar happened. Venue turned people away saying oo sorry, but unfortunately the party has been cancelled. Turns out the party was on. Poor boy was sitting inside the venue wondering where all his mates were. The staff were a bit short staffed and couldn't be arsed taking the guests to the room.

rubyflipper · 31/08/2013 17:39

ihearsounds Shock

fuckwittery · 31/08/2013 17:41

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BoffinMum · 31/08/2013 18:00

Extraordinary!!

stuckonsmallrock · 31/08/2013 18:09

As a mother of an August born I'm wondering if nobody but you replied to say you could come & maybe she lost your number or something??? I have sympathy with everyone, it is so so hard doing birthday parties for August children.

SPBisResisting · 31/08/2013 18:10
Shock
HollaAtMeBaby · 31/08/2013 18:13

Very very odd. Did you not think of stopping at the house and ringing the doorbell given that there were balloons outside? Or ringing from the venue rather than driving all the way home?

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DDDDDORA · 31/08/2013 18:27

To be honest it didn't occur to me to check if everything was ok, the mum comes across as flaky, she never seems to follow things up (this is personal experiance and hearsay) I just assumed this was another one of those things. I have sent a text and Email asking if all is ok. Will let you know if she replies

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Dancergirl · 31/08/2013 18:36

Why on earth would you put balloons outside your house if the party was being held elsewhere??

Unless they were having family over later or something.

How odd

CheeryCherry · 31/08/2013 18:42

It all sounds very bizarre. Hope your DD got over it quickly. And yes, having an August born just requires an extra reminding text/call/email for parties...it is too easy to forget them.

Maryz · 31/08/2013 18:46

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lunar1 · 31/08/2013 19:07

I can't believe the bloody cheek of some people!

ShakeAndVac · 31/08/2013 19:15

You've accepted the invitation. Therefore, you've been accounted for and paid for.
As a mum to a late August baby, I bloody HATE people who say they are coming and then can't be arsed to show up! Angry
Lost lots of money at soft plays parties over the years for people like that

ShakeAndVac · 31/08/2013 19:16

I took DD all the way down to the party only to be told by the staff there that it had been cancelled, DD was very upset. I wasn't the only only there I saw 3 other parents who weren't very happy either. We RSVP'd via Email (she also has my mobile number) so the mother could've let us all know but didn't bother, how inconsiderate!

Just seen this sorry, ignore my last post! How rude of her not to tell you.

ChasedByBees · 31/08/2013 19:17

Shock at not letting you know (shakeandvac, you really should read the rest - if nothing else the OP's posts at least).

ShakeAndVac · 31/08/2013 19:18

(shakeandvac, you really should read the rest - if nothing else the OP's posts at least).

see previous post, I did notice just after posting Smile

SparkyTGD · 31/08/2013 19:22

That's awful OP, I wonder what the reasoning is.

ChasedByBees I love your username Grin

Wishfulmakeupping · 31/08/2013 19:25

How rude, marking place to see what her text back is