ÁIBU to think that some men have a problem with post baby weight

[PigOnStilts]

I gave birth five months ago. To an eleven pounder. Hes one Fat Baby and Im proud that I producued that on angel delight and the odd apple.
Still 12 stone (size 14 for me)..feel really down about it, trying not to give a shit, but I have three stone to lose so not too happy right now.

In the past three weeks I´ve had:
FIL - making some radio 4 hoho gag about my childbreeding hips
DH telling me "youve had enough" when I reached for the maltesers
today, my dad, who is admittedly a judgemental bawbag anyway, scoffing at my figure and telling me to order a diet coke rather than a real coke - and i cant remember the last time I drank the stuff it seemed extra cruel. Then he referred to my "lovely figure" in a really sarcastic way.

Obvs in each situation ive retorted "Ive just had your child/given you two grandchildren" and not taken it lying down.

I should keep my husband out of this as he only made that one comment....ever....hes v supportive and sensitive generally.
BUT
Wheres the fecking respect from the other two old farts and HOW dare FIL or FF (fecking father) critique my size as if Im some filly theyre eyeing up in the street????!

Or you could keep reaching for the maltesers and be back here bemoaning the fact you feel fat, unhealthy, sluggish and so forth in a couple of years, with low self esteem, body image issues and the like.

Pigonstilts - Have you considered that your current daily weight training (lugging your 11lb-er) has contributed to you building bulk in your upper arms? I had 2 heavy babies, though not as big as your lad, and I developed massive biceps when they were babies.

My mother in law used to comment on my weight but kindly meant. In the end I explained it was low on my list of priorities given a very strong family history of depression & previous episodes myself - that it was more important for me to be cheerful post-baby than thin. She understood & never raised it again.

My Dad comments onmy weight all the time, but because he has developed type 2 diabetes and wants me not to make the same mistakes. Actually, having a baby over 9lb is a risk factor for developing type 2 diabetes, so he has a point.

I wouldn't worry about your baby weight, though my youngest is now 5 1/2 so I suppose I ought to get on with shifting mine.

chunderella

Yes! Everyone wants to prod your belly when there's a baby in there yet no one wants to afterwards!

I was going "oooh feel it's like marshmallow!" and suddenly I'm being "gross" haha!

Err...Mathilda, I'm not moaning about my weight...it's work in progress, I'm hardly stuffing my face. Or full of self pity. I'm trying not to be obsessed with it due to previous issues.

And I have lost two stone anyway.

I was complaining about unhelpful comments...

"Or you could keep reaching for the maltesers and be back here bemoaning the fact you feel fat, unhealthy, sluggish and so forth in a couple of years, with low self esteem, body image issues and the like."

OP didn't post looking for weight-loss advice, Mathilda.

Funnily enough, she posted about people with no boundaries who feel entitled to opinionate on someone else's body without being asked.