Aibu to not want to be referred to as the 'flat pack family' by my husbands parents??

[Mojavewonderer]

As the subject matter says really.

I have kids with my 1st husband and not my 2nd and I think this means I am not really part of the family. It's so odd because no one on my side of the family calls my husband and his kids funny or weird names.

I think I'll have to ask them why they call me it. I've never heard that saying before and neither has my husband so we don't know whether they are being insulting but I know I don't like it.

ok mojave.
the solution is clear.

give us some info so we can come up with some suitable weird and insulting names

OldMac l- breaking my heart laughing! That has made my night - screwing til sore ...

Mojave - she is a ignorant old bag. Ask OldMac to come up with a nickname for her.

OldMac - breaking my heart laughing! That has made my night - screwing til sore ... So so funny.

Mojave - she is a ignorant old bag. OldMac to come up with a nickname for her.

OldMac Laughing so much I double posted! That is the best laugh I have had for days, thank you so much.

That is just bitchy of your mil.

Nit only is it bitchy it's bloody inaccurate too.

Next time look puzzled and say 'what do you mean?' That's what I do when my MIL makes silly comments that don't make sense but are clearly meant to be insulting to me or someone else.

Tell her: 'I think you mean the pre-fab family, actually. If you're going to be rude, at least be accurate.'

How about calling them the
'Bean Bag Family'

or 'Moon Chair Central'

What a bitch!

Oh, I see! As in 'ready made'.... Bloody odd thing to call you IMO.

Thick AND rude.

How lovely for you.

I have heard this saying be used before.

But it meant someone who goes from house to house, with tacky furniture and cheap stuff and look scruffy and bedraggled. A slightly upper class version of the insult 'gypsy' I suppose.

How rude.

ROAR @ oldmac!

I think it depends on context, if they knew you well and treated you well then I would think it was funny. It is similar to twins being referred to as making an 'instant' family.

But (and this is what I suspect) if they don't know you well yet, and haven't been very welcoming then it is very rude and you need to get your dh to speak to them about it.

Rude and weird, certainly not a phrase I've come across before. Agree with those saying to ask her exactly what she means, bet she'll be stuck for words.

Smirks childishly at domyou collapse when they fill your drawers

It is obviously intended to be rude, so just frown slightly and say "Sorry, do you mean my children? Why are you calling them that?"

But it's such a crap description! Oak Furniture Land - none of their stuff is self assembly and it comes delivered.

Flatpack family, my arse. Silly woman.

So does that mean your DH (their son) and his kids (their grandchildren) are a flat pack family too?

I'd ask them that exact question. twats.

It certainly puts you in your place. Bottom of the pile in importance and frankly either not liked or possibly not wanted for the kids.

It's why I hate my ils using Clampetts. They don't do it to their face. It's a funny joke about them. Except they are more than happy to take their hospitality and champagne. Makes me dread what they refer to us as because I am QUITE sure there's one.

They gossip about everything you do I'd bet on it. I'm so sorry. Very hurtful. Ignorant fools.

Ffs, why are some people so bloody rude!

Can your dp have a word and protect you a bit?

Can you address it by saying any of the above, or a variation on the mumsnet classic... 'why would you say this? Do you mean to be so unpleasant and rude?'

And when they say 'it's a joke blah blah blah', say 'well it's not funny, it's rude, unwelcoming and ignorant, you should stop saying it unless you want people to think you are also rude, unwelcoming and ignorant'