Aibu to not want to be referred to as the 'flat pack family' by my husbands parents??

[Mojavewonderer]

As the subject matter says really.

As in you already had kids so when your DH married you he married into a 'ready made family'? If so YANBU and should talk to them about it.

Do you collapse when they fill your drawers?

maybe they mean it as a compliment.
like, er........
well....

ok, Im struggling
but that DOES NOT mean they dont mean it as a compliment

I'm very confused as to what is meant by the term "flat pack family"!!

Do you only ever buy furniture that comes flat packed?

Are you cheap?

Are you all mis-matched and un-alined?

Do you come with instructions?

Do you have a few screws loose and/or missing?

Are you considered common?

Are you Swedish?

Is your surname Argos?

Are you frustrating and everyones worst nightmare because no matter how much people try they just can't get you together properly or you all fall apart after 5minutes?

You really are going to explain what your in-laws mean when they call you a "flat pack family" OP because none of us have got a clue!

Do they arrive at your house, filled with trepidation, wander around aimlessly for two hours, get lost going to the loo, eventually find their way to the exit after buying an unwanted house plant and the ever so important basket and eat a hot dog as they leave?

Or are they just terrible snobs? If they are, send them around to my house, they will have a great time tutting at the Expedit, Billy, Leksvik et al.

Do come back and tell us more OP.

As in, a ready-made family, i.e. one your husband has just stepped into because you already had kids? Like many others posters I've never heard this expression before - I'm guessing.

Whatever it means it doesn't sound complimentary. Try the time-honoured 'Did you mean that to sound so rude?'

And give us the backstory...

I am imagining you now as cardboard cutouts, or like Flat Eric.

Loving the ideas for what is meant by "flat packed family". Genuinely laughing my head off much to Dh's disgust as he tries to watch the goggle box!

Are your initials MDF?

I love the passive aggressive "feed them meatballs every time they come over"

I'm assuming you mean their pfb ds has stepped into your flat packed broken home and assembled it into a thing that resembles a family but it actually made of chipboard and is in danger of collapsing at any second

In which case they are being incredibly rude and you should definitely say something

YANBU. Bloody aggravating. Yes. And then they have the cheek!

Could do again, though.

She means they have lots of screws missing and no one cares when they complain.

Subtle and intriguing insult, they Actually sound fun

Husbands mother says 'how are you and the flat packs?' I believe she means 'ready made family' I would prefer it if she said how are you, mojavewonderer and the kids?' Its not like I say 'how are the out laws?' That's just rude.

But flat pack furniture is not ready made, you have to build it yourself

Tbh I was just wondering if anyone else has heard of that saying?

Umm what do mean by 'ready made family'? Did your children come out fully grown?

then maybe you should reply with 'we're fine. How are the outlaws?'

Oh believe me I know and that makes it even more irritating. Can't even get the damn saying right can they.

That's pretty mean.

YANBU

Ask her what she means by it as you can't understand her. If it is what you suspect then tell her you find it insulting and rude.

Haha bowlersarm maybe I should ;)

Did you and the DCs come as a package, ie you had them before you met your DH? In which case it is incredibly rude of them (though they may just think they are being witty, or may be intentionally rude) and both you and your DH should tell them how rude it is.