To be dreading our upcoming 'holiday'?

[TheCunnyFunt]

This is probably going to be really long, I don't want to dripfeed!

Me, DP and our 2yo DD. A week in Cornwall in a static caravan, with MIL, 18yo BIL and 21yo BIL. It would be bad enough like that, as BILs tend to argue over the smallest things, and MIL is a super clean freak, she never EVER does things 'in a minute', everything has to be done NOW. I am the total opposite, quite happy to leave washing up until the next day etc. me and MIL get on, but we cannot live together. I have been dreading the holiday from the day it was agreed. This is the only way we can afford to go on holiday though and we do need a holiday because we've had the shittiest year imaginable, my brother got stabbed and spent 4 months in hospital, my grandad died, my dog killed my rabbit, we bought a new (to us) car that's turned out to be riddled with problems, and on Monday DP had a bad accident at work with a Stihl saw and can't do anything so I'm having to run around after both him and DD. i even gave to bath him!

We've just been informed that oldest BILs (who isn't coming) son will be coming with us, his DS is also 2. Our DD is so laid back, she's (mostly) a lovely, cheery little soul who is a joy to be around and she stays in bed until 8.30-9am most mornings. DN is the polar opposite, he screams, cries, has complete meltdowns over the tiniest thing and wakes up at the crack of dawn. He spends the majority of his days in tears. It wouldn't be so bad if us 3 could escape for the day but DP might not be able to drive by the time holiday comes around and I don't drive.

I just don't want to go now. If I didn't want to go before, I certainly don't now. Would it be so terrible to fib to DP and tell him that the dogs other family aren't able to have him for the week so I'll just have to stay home? Either that or I'll happily accept donations of alcohol and hip flasks to get me through the nightmare week :(

I have my flameproof suit and hardhat at the ready, just in case I'm being incredibly bitchy to not want to go.

Aibu?

OMG! wrong thread

My mum has a static caravan that sounds like that. The two bedrooms with single beds in are tiny. I hope the BILS are not fully grown adult men because they won't sleep well, I'm 5ft10 and my legs stick out of the bed by a mile. And I can't roll over without falling out.

No way could you top and tail two toddlers and have MIL in the same bedroom.

There was a thread like this last year I think, with another unfortunate mumsnetter who had to go on holiday to a caravan with a million relatives. It wasn't good.

OP - you need to pull out. I would use injured husband as an excuse, if you can't drive you'll be reliant on others to take you anywhere and will have no time to yourselves. Don't use the D+V excuse, just say you don't want to come.

I sympathise with having extra child invited too, my MIL does an awful lot of caring for my nephew too, and he always tags along with us when we visit. Nice enough kid but they have different ways of parenting, and my boys pick up his bad habits (he is a very fussy eater and they all pander to it, so mine think the same should apply to them too).

It sounds horrible, you say you need a holiday, and you have had a dreadful year, but it doesn't sound like a holiday to me at all.
It would only add to my stress, I'd rather stay home for the week.

Missed PomBear's post.
YES!

I might just post DD off to Cornwall with them and me, DP and the dog can stay home and build cushion forts :o

:o at Loopy

send dd

or send dd and dp

either way you dont have to to go.
just say no
his parents hi family he can go with or without dd

Sounds like you dodged a bullet there OP. Enjoy your time at home! Your MIL sounds like a bit of a saint/looney to me.