To ignore dh tutting and sighing about housework?

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He's pottering around tidying up and pointedly asking me if I'm going to help him.

No, I'm not. I'm on holiday.

You're having a week off work. But you didn't want to go away anywhere so that we could all have a holiday. So I'm having a holiday at home, same as you. Yes I know I'm a sahm but another week at home cooking, cleaning, food shopping, washing etc isn't actually a holiday for me. So fuck off.

Good for you......in fact, go out for the day on your own! Leave him to it!

I refuse to do holidays at home for this exact reason.

Good on you!! You wanted a holiday anf he wanted it to be at home - therefore you are an holiday!

You should dress up and go out for tapas

"a change is as good a rest. You can have a change and I'll have a rest"

Haha at 'so fuck off'

Holidays at home never bloody work.

If I were you OP I would go and get a Danish pastry or something, eat it without a plate and get crumbs everywhere to make him tut some more.

Why does he need help? Does he help you the rest of the year, or is he another one of those wet blanket types that seem to appear a lot on here who aren't even capable of putting their socks in the wash basket?

Ask him what time 'Happy Hour' starts.

Start calling him Pool Boy and insisting on umbrellas in all of your drinks.

at Happy Hour

yep tell him to pour you a large glass while he finished the cleaning. daft dickhead!!

yep tell him to pour you a large glass while he finished the cleaning. daft dickhead!!

Good for you. If he carries on tutting and sighing go and run the biggest bubble bath ever, take with you a good book, a battery radio* and a long drink and lock the door.
*The radio's for turning up if the tut-and-sigh volume increases.

You are sulking because he didn't take you on a holiday away? Why didn't you go away? It's not really fair to punish him if you didn't have enough money... or is he just a misery?

He's supposed to be having some time off too, not swapping work with you. You aren't going of for 40 hours a week in his office, so why has he got to do all the housework?

I agree with the dressing up and going out for tapas. Try to have a nice time at least, instead of moping about.

^ clearly I have had one already.😃

The only way to do holiday at home is to go out every day!

Or set up a tent in the living room and tell him you are camping.

Pool boy and happy hour!

It's more that kind of unspoken assumption that 'I've' not done the housework today. I'm sorry? Did I make all that mess on my own? Is it woman's work then? He wouldn't dare say it but he doesn't get that I'm on holiday!

And I cooked a roast dinner for five last night and had to do all the clearing up as well. He can do one today.

Yeh, his idea of a holiday at home was you waiting on him...unlucky!

Start calling him Pool Boy and insisting on umbrellas in all of your drinks.

Love this!!!

When H (separated now) had a week off and was whinging about not getting any down time during his "time off" at all, I asked him (as I am a SAHM) "When is MY time off? I assume I get a full week off as well then?" No answer. Yeah, thought so. Still haven't gotten any time off.

So you've been carrying on doing everything all week and he begrudges you one evening sat in front of the laptop?

One less person to wait on though eh triggles?

Ask him what the dress code for dinner is

Might show him this thread.

He'll say 'bloody Mumsnet feminists!'

I remember DH trying to convince me to go camping.....

"oooh, go on, it's GREAT.....waking up to the smell of bacon cooking...."

Erm, if you're just waking up, who's doing the cooking????

Dh said he had 'the most relaxing holiday ever' when we visited his db and sil in Spain.

Well that was because he sat on his arse all week by the pool whilst his sil and I did all the cooking washing, shopping and childcare (and I was on my hands and knees scrubbing the bathroom before we left)!

Your reply to that is and "Did you forget the slice?"