To ignore dh tutting and sighing about housework?

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He's pottering around tidying up and pointedly asking me if I'm going to help him.

No, I'm not. I'm on holiday.

You're having a week off work. But you didn't want to go away anywhere so that we could all have a holiday. So I'm having a holiday at home, same as you. Yes I know I'm a sahm but another week at home cooking, cleaning, food shopping, washing etc isn't actually a holiday for me. So fuck off.

Yes damn us feminists who demand to have to have unpaid work recognised

Nagoo Yes, indeedy!

Deep down I think he thinks that sahm's have the life of Riley. Whilst I do occasionally find time to meet a friend for lunch, I also do pretty much most of the housework, childcare, washing, shopping, etc.

I agree Nagoo

I had a similar chat with DH at the end of our holiday. Yes, it was lovely in France, yes we ate out a few times. But, I still cooked, washed up after most meals, washed clothes (we were there for several weeks), shopped....oh, and cleaned up the place at the end.

The holiday next year (for a quite big wedding anniversary) will not be self catering or with the dog.

How pathetic. Grow up.

Mine does that too. Effing irritating.

Why didn't you just go away somewhere for a break. It's not that surprising neither of you is very happy sat around at home. Can't you go away now. It's a holiday not a job swap.

Oh he's happy, he's home from work for a week. He has a fairly difficult job in a very technical industry so a week off is a big break for him. Probably didn't want to spend it in a strange place herding and entertaining the dc's for a week.

I wouldn't mind though. Am seriously bored of the school holidays.

How does being on holiday (but not away) equate to not doing housework? Surely it needs doing all the time? that's one of the positives about time off work - there is time to really catch up on things at home.

Death to be fair you can smell other people's bacon cooking on a campsite!

Um, yes it does need doing all the time. You're right. So if I stay at home and carry on doing all the housework, when exactly do I get a break from the monotonous domestic drudgery?

Yanbu op. Dh has a habit of taking sneaky hols without telling me-so as soon as the kids are back at school he will announce he has taken 5 days off and intends to do nothing. I would love to do nothing but of course I am still expected to do all washing,cleaning,cooking and childcare. Arse.

Today I have-

Hung washing out & got it in
Sorted it out & ironed it
Vacuumed

I can't leave it alone can I?

What has the 'Pool Boy' done?

Well he thought he'd tidy up some of the crap in the study. Which now means the study looks a bit emptier and the hall is full of crap.

Oh and he cooked dinner. So not too bad an effort.

Can you put all the stuff in the hall into his car? I find a car boot an excellent place for long term storage especially dh's

Just say....leave the bloody house work!! as long as the pots are done, who gives a shit?

at the hall now being full of his stuff. Pop it in the car for him and run it to the tip. Job done!

Am not that brave in real life, but equally husband would never clear anything out of his own accord. So I get him to do some of the routine jobs that require no direction from me, and I do all the 'management' level decluttering and sorting.

OP...what have you got planned for tomorrow?

Hope you are going out somewhere........

Good for you I've done the same thing x a little bit of huffing n puffing but it's ok he gets it x

Hopefully putting all his crap tidying up back in his office.