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To think husband is lying

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Arnie123 · 23/08/2013 13:31

Husband quit smoking a year ago but recently I have seen him with a few crafty cigarettes. I have offered support and got him to see the doctor who gave him patches. Today I went to see him while walking the dogs and he had a packet of cigarettes the normal brand he buys on the pram. I quizzed him about it and he said he found them on the floor and picked them up. I do not believe this as he is registered blind and is someone who drops litter rather than cleaning up. I am aware I am being a control freak but I am really worried about smoking around my son as he has had one cot death already. Do you think he is lying?

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ilovesooty · 24/08/2013 20:28

Sorry arnie but if someone posted that her husband had decided she needed to switch to ecigs and made a decision for her on what to buy, he'd be deemed controlling.

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Arnie123 · 24/08/2013 20:28

I bought him a cheap one yesterday so he could try it out actually and when he liked it got him the best one

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ExitPursuedByABear · 24/08/2013 20:30

And I still don't understand the reference to a cot death.

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Arnie123 · 24/08/2013 20:31

I have told him he can continue to smoke if that is what he likes but tried to find him a healthier alternative which he actually prefers. And last week he had a severe asthma attack and nearly had to stay overnight in hospital on a drip. Apologies if I care about his health but he was in once before for a week after an attack and nearly died

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Arnie123 · 24/08/2013 20:31

Passive smoking increases the risk of cot death

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MikeOxard · 24/08/2013 20:32

Did you confront him about swearing on your son's life that he wasn't smoking when he was? Is it his son too? I wouldn't be annoyed about the smoking, but I'd be really angry about the lying and swearing in his life - there's just no need, why not just be adult and honest?

OldMacEIEIO · 24/08/2013 20:32

gin. no problem.
we got the same information but come to different conclusions. thats life

ExitPursuedByABear · 24/08/2013 20:32

Yes I know. But you said there had already been a cot death.

ilovesooty · 24/08/2013 20:33

I hope you will introduce him to a forum where you can research together and where he can access ongoing support and even perhaps meet up with others who've made the switch.

I'm not holding my breath though.

ginmakesitallok · 24/08/2013 20:36

Arnie, out of interest which e cig did you get him in the end? Think most of us vapers are hunting the holy grail of the best one!

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Arnie123 · 24/08/2013 20:37

Well blind people do struggle to use a computer when they cannot use a Braille keyboard

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ginmakesitallok · 24/08/2013 20:38

Ilovesooty, I pmed you, but autocorrect changed your name to olive and sooty (who will now be even more confused than you are!)

ExitPursuedByABear · 24/08/2013 20:39

So there has not been a cot death?

ilovesooty · 24/08/2013 20:42

I suggested you accessed a forum together arnie

gin I haven't got a PM. I'm still on tenterhooks! I'll PM you.

FurryDogMother · 24/08/2013 21:54

I'm another AAECer - switched to vaping back in March and it's changed my life. I doubt the OP got the top of the range equipment - that would be a Provari (which I don't have, dammit!) - though saw some other options at Vapefest last week :) I highly recommend AAEC - very friendly people, great advice and knowledge there!

ilovesooty · 24/08/2013 22:21

Yay...another AAEC member! Grin

I wanted to go to Vapefest: maybe next year.

Libertine73 · 25/08/2013 19:26

Arnie Was it your child that died in cot death? Or both yours and your DH?

glad he's happy wtih his e-cig.

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