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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To not want MIL to do this to my cloths?

100 replies

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie · 23/08/2013 08:35

Since there is already a tea towel based thread on here I thought I'd join in the pettiness! MIL is staying and while she is lovely she has a maddening habit...bear in mind this thread is slightly light hearted...but i am also a bit annoyed too.

When she's tidied the kitchen or washed up (which she does at least once a day bless her) she always takes the cloth I use for wiping the surfaces and sink over and spreads them to dry over the side of the sink or the body of the mixer tap...the cloths are always stained and dirty looking....as though she's wiped up four coffee spills with it.

I don't see the need! I place them in a a little bleachy water after a wipe around...she must think hanging them to dry will minimize germs....but surely she should take note of what I DO in my house which is what I do when in hers!

I never follow MY routine in her kitchen but adhere to HERS!!! AIBU?

OP posts:
Mixxy · 23/08/2013 08:36

Yes. You sound like a mad, ungrateful bint. Sorry.

Lottiedoubtie · 23/08/2013 08:37

Your MIL does your washing up EVERY day??

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie · 23/08/2013 08:38

Some of it Lottie yes...she's staying with us!

OP posts:
amistillsexy · 23/08/2013 08:39

Would you like to send her round to mine, OP? I'll take the wretch off your hands for you Grin

FrussoHathor · 23/08/2013 08:39

My mum does this. Albeit the cloths are "rinsed out" I don't have any brothers though

BlackholesAndRevelations · 23/08/2013 08:39

God, yes, YABU

fluffyraggies · 23/08/2013 08:40

Are you irritated with the cloths hanging around drying, or that she doesn't bleach them?

I get infuriated with kitchen cloths being left in a wet heap to stink!

MegaClutterSlut · 23/08/2013 08:40

what Mixxy said......wish someone would wash up for me, certainly wouldn't get touchy about how they hang the dishcloth so YABU imo Grin

Alibabaandthe40nappies · 23/08/2013 08:40

YABU

I am a draper of cloths, it drives DH mad. Grin

FrussoHathor · 23/08/2013 08:41

Does she throw your bleachy water away too "because it looks dirty"?

TeWiSavesTheDay · 23/08/2013 08:42

Can't you just chuck them in the bleach yourself? She's probably not noticed that's what you do.

purrpurr · 23/08/2013 08:42

YANBU! Totally not. Doesn't matter what it is, if you follow her routine in her house, she should follow yours in your house. It's a respect / young v old thing in my eyes. My mum is so critical and so keen to tell me what I should be doing from a domestic standpoint in my home but I would never dare in hers - because I think it starts to become disrespectful, not because she's wielded a dishcloth longer than I have. Your home is your cave, you care for it how you choose. To object to someone else doing things their way in your cave surely must be normal.

FuzzyWuzzywasaWoman · 23/08/2013 08:44

Another draper here, plus if I had somone to do my kitchen everyday they can do whatever the fuck they want with the cloth. So YABU.

Morgause · 23/08/2013 08:45

What a bitch! Make her sit down and do nothing for the rest of the stay and wait on her hand and foot. Cook her meals and make sure you clean up yourself.

That'll teach her! Wink

Forgetfulmog · 23/08/2013 08:52

Omg, YABU! Actually I'm pretty sure that rinsing the cloth in hot water & leaving it to dry like your mil does is fine, germs wise. Anyway don't be so bloody ungrateful!

Feminine · 23/08/2013 08:53

During her visit, just buy value brand J-cloths and bin them every day!

For your sanity, it seems worth it! Wink

Feminine · 23/08/2013 08:54

p.s. I am very scared about the possibility of one day becoming a MIL.

olivo · 23/08/2013 08:54

I'll take her off your hands < casts a beady eye around my filthy kitchen and wonders if there is a cloth there at all>Grin

ENormaSnob · 23/08/2013 08:56

My gran does this.

Tbh, im just grateful that someone else has washed up Wink

Doesn't bother me at all.

EhricLovesTeamQhuay · 23/08/2013 08:57

Bleachy water? Vom. Why not just chuck them in the washing machine?

Parmarella · 23/08/2013 08:59

OP is a bit nutty, MIL sounds lovely

If someonedoes your washing up just be grateful and gracious bout it

Parmarella · 23/08/2013 09:01

Ahhhhh wait a minute, reverse Aibu perchance?

Hopasholic · 23/08/2013 09:05

J-cloths on a roll are your friend OP

Lock her in the cellar.

My mil liked to take my washing out of the machine, fold it, and leave it in a pile, wet on my wooden dining room table. Why would you fold wet washing? Tell me pleeeease!

She is still in my cellar.

roundtable · 23/08/2013 09:05

Your mil's a bitch. Chuck her out. The audacity of her, washing up and then not leaving the dishcloths in a wet pile to stink.

I don't know how you cope with her behaviour.

AKissIsNotAContract · 23/08/2013 09:07

Cloths are minging. I only use kitchen towel. YABU for having a cloth, draped or otherwise.