To not want MIL to do this to my cloths?

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Since there is already a tea towel based thread on here I thought I'd join in the pettiness! MIL is staying and while she is lovely she has a maddening habit...bear in mind this thread is slightly light hearted...but i am also a bit annoyed too.

When she's tidied the kitchen or washed up (which she does at least once a day bless her) she always takes the cloth I use for wiping the surfaces and sink over and spreads them to dry over the side of the sink or the body of the mixer tap...the cloths are always stained and dirty looking....as though she's wiped up four coffee spills with it.

I don't see the need! I place them in a a little bleachy water after a wipe around...she must think hanging them to dry will minimize germs....but surely she should take note of what I DO in my house which is what I do when in hers!

I never follow MY routine in her kitchen but adhere to HERS!!! AIBU?

Why would it be a reverse? You think it's from the Mil perspective? That doesn't make sense

oh OP
get a grip

I would far rather rinse and dry than leave in a pot of water however much bleach is in it. I hate wet cloths.
But yeah she should do it your way.

Quick rinse in hot water and drape them. Our kitchen surfaces get wiped down about 10 times a day. It's the busiest room in the house (after the bathroom!). So you chuck them in bleach after every single wipe down? Or just once a day?

Yes. You sound like a mad, ungrateful bint. Sorry.

This. if someone tidied my kitchen and did the washing ounce a day they could hang the cloths out on a line in the front garden for all I care :o

But you said it was lightearted and I agree that it can be immensely irritating when someone is in your house doing something differently.

YABU
The smell of bleach makes me sneeze.

I have no wish to interact with your bleachy water.

Wet cloths in a heap (even in bleach) stink the room out. The smell reminds me of my primary school toilets where the mop was left in bleach.

Is this just j cloths you're talking about?

Use for a couple of days / until a major spill occurs and then bin. No need for any bleaching or draping nonsense.

If you're using those mingy white string things, get rid and start using j cloths.

Sounds exactly like my mil but I couldn't give a flying fuck what she does with the cloths as long ad she keeps doing the dishes!!

Now now...I SAID it was light hearted! I'm very happy she washes up....but WHY DRAPE A FILTHY ClOTH???

Why not?

Oh my god! It's probably never even entered her head that how she leaves the cloth would be an issue and why would it?
My dh leaves the dirty, unrinsed cloth in a wet stinky heap on the side next to the bowl of dirty soapy water he's not tipped away. That's annoying. Therefore we have the cheap jay cloths and I chuck them every couple of days as a pp suggested.

neo it drives me batty but given the choice of having to do it myself I let it go whilst sheathing inside!! She puts everything in the wrong place too and stacks the dishwasher wrong!!

I hear your pain op, at least she'll be leaving, dh does this.

How can you even give this headroom

It's funny how the little things ils/parents do, that drive you mad, that when put into perspective are so insignificant.
When my fil washes up I have to leave the room

Yanbu. What does your DH say? Is he supporting you on this? Have you considered LTB?

YABU, she probably just does it automatically. I am fussy about my cloths and both drape (after a good rinse and I use mabu cloths which are amazing) and bleach when stained but tbh I'd be slightly freaked if someone observed my cloth habits and faithfully copied me. Apart from Dh of course.

Actually you may be being a little U, but I have every sympathy - I generally find other people's washing up in some way incorrect - think it's normal to feel somewhat territorial about one's kitchen. (I decline some offers of assistance, in fact.) But at least she is helping!

Good Lord

YADNBU. My mother and I have just spent two months back in England staying in the homes of several different friends and relatives. One of our daily observations was the treatment of the cloths. We do things properly in our own homes, like you OP, but followed the householder's habits when we washed up in return for being fed and in some cases flung the minging stained cloth back on the side in a heap

I won't mention the hand towels and tea towels bork

Really? It's a coffee stain, not shit. What sort of germs do you think are in that?
It drives me nuts when my cloths are not pristine, but I wouldn't be whinging if it was that way because someone had wiped down the sides, rinsed and draped. As someone up thread said, it's when they are left in a minging wet heap that I get a bit crazy.
Just pop them in some bleach overnight to soak.

So people dont just squeeze out their cloths snd leave them at the side of the sink?
Weird

J-Cloths, or the cheap substitutes around in Pound/Near Pound shops. By the way, your MIL sounds a saint - as I am myself, of course!