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Original poster

uninvited to wedding

82 replies

treesntrees · 22/08/2013 18:32

am I being unreasonable to be upset that son and daughter in law have been un-invited to cousin's wedding because they were late RSPBing due to difficulties in arranging child care for child free wedding?

OP posts:
mynameisslimshady · 22/08/2013 19:16

You are all being tits now swanning in here with your bird jokes.

katatonic · 22/08/2013 19:16

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Pobblewhohasnotoes · 22/08/2013 19:18

Are they still going to buy them a pheasant?

AKissIsNotAContract · 22/08/2013 19:21

YABU. Someone I invited to my wedding contacted me 6 weeks after the RSVP by date to ask if she could still come (still didn't send the card back and I included an SAE). I told her she was welcome to join us for the evening but unfortunately her place for the day had been given to someone else and she deleted me off her FB friends and hasn't replied!

YouStayClassySanDiego · 22/08/2013 19:24

Is the reception at 'The Swan'

MardyBra · 22/08/2013 19:26

Owling with laughter at the Rspb replies.

We need more info OP. if they were a week late and the wedding is next year, then it's unreasonable.

If they're several weeks late and the wedding is imminent it's reasonable, even if some feathers are going to be ruffled. [ wink]

Methe · 22/08/2013 19:31

What absolute tits!

AnneUulmelmahay · 22/08/2013 19:35

Oh this is owlful. Poor lovebirds.

Ducky, try not to dabble in your chick's problems. They were really ruddy ducking rude in not replying.

YouStayClassySanDiego · 22/08/2013 19:35

OP, keep your beak out of this!

TramadolDaze · 22/08/2013 19:37

What are you all squawking about here?

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RenterNomad · 22/08/2013 19:43

Blown away
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MrsSchadenfreude · 22/08/2013 19:44

As well as posting on Mumsnet, why don't you try tweeting this problem as well?

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RenterNomad · 22/08/2013 19:44

Besides, Bride & Groom have had enough on their chick-list!

Mia4 · 22/08/2013 19:45

YABU, unless the RSVP is a very long time before the wedding or they'd called up to explain already and the couple ignored their explanation. The couple need to tell the venue how much food to prepare so they need to know numbers. Also they may have very eager friends who'd jump at the chance to RSVP so why shouldn't the invite go to someone who cares enough to RSVP or explain?

Also if your son couldn't be arsed to call up and explain then he can't really be arsed all that much about attending. He wasn't univited, he didn't bother responding or letting them know. Honestly, it's not anything to do with you- do you often fight your son's battles? Does he expect you to step in when he can't be bothered?

primroseyellow · 22/08/2013 19:47

Why do some people assume they do not need to reply to an invite with RSVP? Still waiting to hear from one of my invitees(?) for an event last weekend (and still narked she never thanked us for wedding present...),,conclusion: she is entitled madam who thinks these things beneath her.....

YouStayClassySanDiego · 22/08/2013 19:51

Where is OP, has she flown the nest?

Mia4 · 22/08/2013 19:56

primroseyellow some people are guestzilla's g much as there are bride and groomzilla's I've seen some guest ones.

I know one friend who is getting married next weekend had someone RSVP over facebook (awful etiquette) - despite the invites including prestamped RSVP envelopes- over 6 weeks late and expecting the bride to accommodate her. Even more facepalming was the fact that said couple had both emailed, fb and called this woman who'd ignored them all. Apparently, she felt she 'couldn't commit' until now. Though didn't bother sharing that information until less than a week before.

Lestagal78 · 22/08/2013 19:57

No she's thrown us the bird. For our bad humour.

stiffstink · 22/08/2013 19:57

Eggstraordinary!

lljkk · 22/08/2013 19:58

Can't swallow this tale, maybe OP is some kinda Lyrebird.

Methe · 22/08/2013 20:07

I think she's chickened out!

Original poster
treesntrees · 22/08/2013 21:04

First of all they did contact the bride and groom and say they would like to come but explained that they couldn't confirm until they knew if the grandparents could babysit. The grandparents had arrangements themselves which were difficult to re-arrange. The wedding was over 200 miles away so child care needed for two days and one night so trusted baby sitter that the child would be happy to stay with for that length of time had to be used. They were actually told six weeks before the wedding date by the brides mother that they should consider themselves un-invited.
Secondly when has feeling upset been poking ones nose in.
Yes I did mean RSVP but do think the amusing replies were funny.

OP posts:
nkf · 22/08/2013 21:06

Did they reply via twitter?

Original poster
treesntrees · 22/08/2013 21:08

Sorry for the delay in answering but my computer froze so I closed it down to cool it .

OP posts:
AnneUulmelmahay · 22/08/2013 21:09

6 weeks before and they still hadn't confirmed, oh dear.

Bad feelings all round Sad