to think dh should have remembered my dad's anniversary

[nearlymumofone]

dh asked me what I was up to tomorrow so I replied that I was going with my mum to the crematorium as it's my dad's 5th anniversary. He said that he forgot and was sorry (although I did actually remind him about a week ago) and then. .... nothing. He hasn't asked how I feel or anything. Is that normal? Maybe I'm just a bit emotional and expecting too much?

I've no idea what date my Dad died - I know it was April but that's as far as it goes. I know my Mum gets low around that time so will make sure I speak to her around then but I wouldn't expect DW to remember....

nearly, I don't think YABU. My dad died 6 years ago this November 22nd. I miss him dearly and still cry even after 'all this time'.

My dh is crap at dates but he always remembers this one and he will always be there for a cuddle and a chat.

It is important, because it is important to you, regardless of what he thinks/feels.

Hope yesterday wasn't too painful

My DH remembers his mum every birthday and Christmas, but I always forget her birthday. His dad remembers their wedding anniversary every year. Mil's headstone is at a local crem and they visit it twice a year, have done for 16 years. I don't go along, it all happened before I came on the scene and Fil got remarried.

Its like a lot of things, its what your husband thinks affects him. I bet he forgets other people's birthdays, anniversaries etc. Men are just like that. I am a selfish beast, I only remember my families anniversaries etc. Dh remembers his family milestones. I works for us.