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AIBU?

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To be sick of DH being a miserable sod?

34 replies

KayKale · 18/08/2013 16:41

Sunday morning - we don't need to get up or rush to do anything so its about 9am and we're still bed. We're both awake so I try and go for a bit of a kiss and cuddle - this is when he decides it's time to get up Hmm

So we get up, I put the radio on. He turns it down then turns it right up when one of his favourite songs come on. The back door is open and it's a very quiet (almost silent!) neighbourhood so I turn it down slightly. He rolls his eyes and mopes into the living room.

I decide to make the effort. I sit next to him and say "give us a cuddle?" he does but it seems forced. I try and lighten the mood and ask if he wants a head massage, he says he does. I ggo to give him a massage and my hand gives way and I fall slightly. He tuts and mutters "for fucks sake" and moves away quite moodily. I tell him it was an accident and give him a playful swipe on the head and he snaps "just fuck off!" Sad so I do. I go and eat coco pops and drink coffee in the other room and leave him to it. He comes in a few minutes later apologising and saying I had given him gog bother and it was a knee jerk reaction. I told him I'm sick of him being a miserable bastard (this whole episode is not a one off)

AIBU to think normal happy people dont act like this and blow up like a toddler over a bit of gog bother? feeling fed up with life right now

OP posts:
ClartyCarol · 18/08/2013 16:42

What the hell is gog bother?

mum23girlys · 18/08/2013 16:45

I'm with clarty, what's gog bother?

extracrunchy · 18/08/2013 16:48

I need to know too!!

You sound like you were just being nice, but at the same time for a non morning person who just wants to be left alone (and I know what that's like) it might come across as annoying...

Maybe leave him in the AM till his grumpiness diffuses?! Then again, 9am isn't exactly the crack of dawn...

AgentZigzag · 18/08/2013 16:52

The only 'gog bother' on the internet is this thread Grin

Typo?

HIBU though, but then it's difficult to cheer up if you're feeling like crap for whatever reason. At least he apologised, that has to stand for something.

Aren't you ever not in the mood to mess about OP? Surely you can't be happy 24/7.

AgentZigzag · 18/08/2013 16:53

'9am isn't exactly the crack of dawn...'

YABU Grin

SmiteYouWithThunderbolts · 18/08/2013 16:53

WTH is "gog bother"...? I can't tell if YABU or not 'til I know what it is.

McNewPants2013 · 18/08/2013 16:54

It sounds like you was trying to get to get him in the mood for sex.

Which he wasn't intrested in.

dickiedavisthunderthighs · 18/08/2013 16:55

If you're in a bad mood there's really nothing worse than someone pestering you for affection. At the same time it's natural for a lot of people to get clingy when someone else is in a bad mood. Leave him to it OP.

ImpulsePineapple · 18/08/2013 16:59

I am mostly marking my place to find out what 'gog bother' is.

He does sound grumpy OP, but maybe he'd had a crap nights sleep or something is bothering him. Having said that, there's no excuse for being rude to you, and if this is a pattern rather than a one-off I'd be having a good think about my relationship.

PuppyMonkey · 18/08/2013 17:01

Ooh I love a spot of gog botheringGrin

Not a clue really, waiting with the rest of you to find out.

AgentZigzag · 18/08/2013 17:01

Gog is apparently slang for someone from north wales.

seensomuch · 18/08/2013 17:03

so dh is a bit of a miser , you are a bit annoying , and now your fed up with life , bit dramatic .

nobeer · 18/08/2013 17:03

I need to know what gog bother is too!

TheFallenNinja · 18/08/2013 17:04

Is gig bothering like sheep worrying?

recall · 18/08/2013 17:04

got bother?..? need to know now, not sure if I like it or not

TheFallenNinja · 18/08/2013 17:04

Oh ffs *gog

flummoxedlummox · 18/08/2013 17:05

I had some God botherers around earlier but I don't think that's relevant.

Yonionekanobe · 18/08/2013 17:05

I fear my toddler may currently be giving DH gog bother which is in turn gog bothering me as I am supposed to be relaxing in another room.

Yonionekanobe · 18/08/2013 17:06

Gig bothering sounds like something I haven't been arsed with for a while. All the queues at the bar...

DfanjoUnchained · 18/08/2013 17:07

He sounds like a fucking arsehole. Stop being so nice to him.

pictish · 18/08/2013 17:08

Gog bother? Do explain!

As for the rest of it, he sounds rude and disrespectful, saying ffs and what not...but honestly you sound a bit of a pest with your head massages too.

AKissIsNotAContract · 18/08/2013 17:09

I think your DH sounds like a grumpy prick.

I have no idea what gog bother is either but can still make out the jist of your post.

TheMagicKeyCanFuckOff · 18/08/2013 17:10

Tbh, what you did didn't deserve a 'fuck off' YANBU in that, but some people (including me) really aren't morning people, so although YANBU in that people don't go fuck off (or shouldn't) I can get he would be annoyed.

McNewPants2013 · 18/08/2013 17:13

GOG = grumpy old git

MonstersDontCry · 18/08/2013 17:13

Marking my place to find out what gog bothering is.