Getting annoyed with my in laws after returning my daughter following a 5 day visit

[Mirflet]

Naturally suspicious and a bit annoyed of what has a gone while my 4 year old has spent 5 days at the in laws as part of the summer break. Here's why:

she started to tell us not to argue even when we're not

• she has mentioned that she must always tell the truth, this makes me suspicious. She's always told the truth before and never had to state up front she was telling the truth
• she has been eating nothing but custard creams and strawberry mousse for lunch
• she hasn't been outside for 4 days
• she has a sun tan and painted nails, what next tattoos and a pierced nose!!?
• she takes 36 hours to come down off the sugar high

fabergeegg your post made me a little sad tbh. There is such a thing as fun in childhood and both you and the OP seem to have forgotten this.

Plus the OP makes little sense in any case....

Oh no no no no no no no... Evil PiLs, evil, just pure evil...

YABU

She's four.

She's hardly a paragon of truth and accuracy. The sugar high theory has been disproved and the rest sounds harmless. I bet the ILs have a totally different story but did you even bother to ask them?

PS I hope you thanked them profusely for five solid days of childcare. Looking after a four year old 24/7 is by no means effortless when you're older.

So they provided free childcare and sent her home happy and excited? The utter bastards!

A pierced nose?!?

I would be pissed off if fake tan.

Please come back and explain the sun tan thing, OP.

Count yourself lucky. My ILs have just had four grandsons (including my 2 DS) for a day to help out. Unsupervised, my 8 year old nephew has fallen off a ropeswing and broken both his wrists!

I take it you didn't have a fab time with your gps which is why you are suspicious of your dd spending time with her grandparents.

I am a bit jealous of my dcs being spoilt by my parents because I didn't grow up with mine. They lived on the otherside of the planet & I can barely remember mine.

Ooh CPtart. That's awful. How did the parents react!

Mmmm, SIL relies heavily on them for childcare week in week out so its a difficult one. Devastated, but very tactful not to point the finger. DH and I are rethinking our options for the next half term.

TBH I really doubt that she hadn't been outside for four days if she had a sun tan. You'd know if it was fake tan as she would smell of stale biscuits!

My sons often get timescales mixed up and say it's been raining for two months instead of two days, for example.

Sometimes children fall off swings and break bones. It happens. It doesn't mean GPs were negligent. He is 8, surely he can go on a swing unsupervised? I am assuming you are being critical, CPtart. Maybe you aren't. My son went to a friend's house and broke his arm on a trampoline. I didn't think she was negligent. I just thought he'd had an accident. And he was only 2 at the time.

Maybe. My own DS broke an arm in the care of a childminder so I'm well aware accidents can happen without blame.
In this case it appears the ropeswing was a makeshift affair being used by teenagers at the time which resulted in jostling and the subsequent fall. The boys shouldn't have been near it IMO.

The first 2 things sounds like something she has picked up off her GP. Maybe mil said it to fil or vice versa?

My MIL has a 'never lie' fixation. It is so stupid. If humans didn't lie, we'd all be outcasts, because white lies are a social lubricant plus I've witnessed MIL lying on numerous occasions so she's a liar :)

you know what after being in mumsnet for too long now I am actually dreading my dss getting married if my future dils are like some ops on here.

my mil and fil was lovely and we got on great. I love my sils too. i naively assumed they it would be like this for me too.. seriously worried now.

of course some inlaws are bonkers. like the op earlier who had spa gate and party gate but here we have inlaws who take her dd for 5 glorious fun days and she moans.

so just my dds will marry I think.

Ooh I fancy a custard cream and strawberry mousse for my lunch tomorrow.

YABU. Custard creams are lovely, as are bourbons and pretty much any of those fancy fox biscuits. I fucking love a good biscuit.

Not too keen on strawberry mousse though, unless it's angel delight?

I know, thebody. My late mil was a wonderful lady, I miss her most dreadfully even years after her untimely passing.

'so just my dds will marry I think.' aren't you just setting yourself up for a fall if you are starting from the stance that no one is ever going to be good enough for your Dss?

thebody exactly. I also had a lovely mother in law who sadly died before I had children.

I just hate the language in the OP 'suspicious', like they've committed a crime or something. Looking for an excuse to curtail contact even thought it sounds like D had a magic time.

DuellingFanjo, she as quite clearly joking.

don't be a twat duelling.

Anne and Sophia, exactly.

Well, as the OP hasn't reappeared, I'm fairly convinced that this is not a genuine thread.