Getting annoyed with my in laws after returning my daughter following a 5 day visit

[Mirflet]

Naturally suspicious and a bit annoyed of what has a gone while my 4 year old has spent 5 days at the in laws as part of the summer break. Here's why:

she started to tell us not to argue even when we're not

• she has mentioned that she must always tell the truth, this makes me suspicious. She's always told the truth before and never had to state up front she was telling the truth
• she has been eating nothing but custard creams and strawberry mousse for lunch
• she hasn't been outside for 4 days
• she has a sun tan and painted nails, what next tattoos and a pierced nose!!?
• she takes 36 hours to come down off the sugar high

If it's fake tan then yanbu, but the rest of it...nah. Bollocks.

A sugar high is a complete myth - google it.

Don't like your in-laws by any chance?

But she had a good time?

Sugar high is a myth?

Must google. Learn something new every day.

Also agree with the oft reported 'sugar high' being a myth. There is no scientific evidence to suggest that such a thing exists. All claims are anecdotal.

Surley of it was fake tan the op would have said fake tan and not sun tan? Or maybe that's just me.

If you are nappy enough to take 5 days free childcare you can't dictate what happens. if ahe is safe and had fun then be happy and grateful.

My DS is regularly told he needs to tell the truth. He'll swear blind that he has washed his hands/flushed the toilet/finished his peas/put his toys away even when it is 100% clear that he hasn't done any of these things. I imagine that your DD GPs have had to give her a gentle reminder to tell the truth, which she has taken very seriously but not enough to prevent her telling you about mousse and biscuits for lunch everyday.

I don't think you are being naturally suspicious - doesn't sound natural at all.

god, in laws are such bastards........

I would be furious about a fake tanned 4yr old!
The other stuff doesn't sound too bad though (or sounds like selective reporting )

Hang on- was it a fake tan?

I once heard someone say putting sugar in a child is like putting rocket fuel in a mini. It still goes like a mini.

curlew - the OP just says sun tan and hasn't clarified.

Jeepers how is she expected NOT to get a tan at the outdoor casino, pole dancing on a Mars bar?

If its a fake tan are you sure it's not gravy browning?

I once returned with that up my legs and a pencil line my adored gran had drawn on for me (to demonstrate how stockings were applied during the war)

Maybe it is dirt and she hasn't had a bath all week?

Somewhere there's a set of very happy grandparents celebrating the knowledge that they won't be asked to babysit for five full days ever again

Never send her again.....my goodness how dare they try and spoil her.

Hint...that's what grandparents do and the sugar thing is a load of bollocks....children get high from life and not sugar.

I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt and assume this is a jokey, pisstake type of thread. If not I swear I must exist on a much laxer parenting level than MN.

Robert Winston did a great experiment about sugar high by doing two children's parties - one craft and singing and sugary crap, and one bouncy castle and musical bumps and carrot sticks. The parents reported the "sugar high" after the boisterous but low sugar party.

OP I suspect your daughter has been imaginative on holiday and her grandparents pulled her up on it. She is still being imaginative now.

As for the "Don't argue", perhaps they encountered someone rowing while they were in a public place and DD was anxious about it. If you never argue then any adult disagreement will confuse and frighten her.

you sound a bit unhinged to be frank.

Nancy66 that's exactly what I thought. She doesn't like her in laws and is determined to find fault with the week of free childcare they kindly provided.

Providing a weeks free childcare and letting their grandchild have a fun time. Bastards.

Love the "sugar high" experiment.

Children, like adults, are stimulated (and sometimes overexcited) when they have had an exciting time- and quieter (more dull) when they have had a dull time.

My 16yo went to a show in London last week and got to speak to some of her most favourite actors by the stage door. She has hardly been fit to live with since. But her diet has been most exemplary.

I otoh have been at home stuffing myself on biscuits and tying up loose ends at work. I'm as dull as ditch water.

But am also wondering if the OP is not a pisstake of precious parents: the juxtaposition of the rather imaginative diet and the "I must tell the truth" is rather well done.

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