to be annoyed at being nagged at work by my husband?

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I was in the middle of a project and my husband contacted me to nag me about tidying up my room. 20 mins of nag and I have promised to spend the evening in my room to get it to his exacting standards. I'm 54 FFS.

What????

He spent nearly his whole lunchtime, on the phone to you, nagging you?
What a pratt.

If its your room why is it any of his business?

Is it a study?

Seriously? I'd get quite shirty if DH rang me at work to nag about home stuff. I wouldn't do it to him.

How is it even possible to nag for 20 minutes?

Don't know Salmo, I'll just ask my mum :o

YANBU. Could you have not simply said " darling, Im busy now. We shall discuss when we are at home." Said in a nice brisk business tone?

Far too polite Secretswitch - "Are you taking the piss?" Is much better.

Tell him to stay the fuck out of 'your' room, the twat...

Because we are having his sister to stay. I sorted it all out for the weekend for other guests and put away stuff last night. I basically have to clear every surface.

I am not a slob but I genuinely have more stuff than he has - perfumes, deodorant, jewellery etc. He wants me to sort out stuff under the bed (in storage bags)! She won't care about that.

How did you not tell him to fuck off and hang up on him after one minute of nagging? Is he always a controlling fucknugget?

He is ex-forces and I am having a dorm inspection.

If he has 20 minutes to nag, he has wasted 20 minutes of cleaning time. Why on earth did you listen for that long, and not tell him to bugger off?

I'm not being nosey but is this a shared bedroom or your own room?

CruCru, when he worked I couldn't contact him unless I was 15 seconds from death. If I'd contacted him to move his socks from the settee there would have been 'words'.

Ex forces is irrelevant. No ex (or current!) forces people I know would dream of doing that! Hes a prat. You don't have to put up with that, you know.

Salmo, we have separate bedrooms. His snoring, me not being allowed to read in bed and just basically wanting my own space.

Don't they all ring up to nag/whinge/complain?

Er, surely the response is "I am busy working right now. I will talk to you when I get home"

Got to go but will be back later.

I have a colleague whose husband thinks it's fine to phone, text and email every 10 minutes about domestic stuff.

And I am constantly willing her to say, 'FUCK OFF. I'M AT MY WORK. WHERE I'M BEING PAID. TO WORK'.

Ah, ok.

Why doesn't he give his sister his, no doubt immaculate, room then?

Running - do you sit next to me?

My DH has never phoned me at work, ever.

I only phone him if I need to ask something important very quickly.

Which is maybe twice a year.

If you let your husband treat you like shit, then you can't really complain when he does!

I am honestly astounded that you didn't tell him to fuck off, like any other self respecting person would have done.