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Original poster

to be annoyed at being nagged at work by my husband?

51 replies

atosilis · 14/08/2013 16:12

I was in the middle of a project and my husband contacted me to nag me about tidying up my room. 20 mins of nag and I have promised to spend the evening in my room to get it to his exacting standards. I'm 54 FFS.

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ImpulsePineapple · 14/08/2013 16:53

He sounds like a pain in the arse. I'd be telling him as he's that bothered, and you really are not, AND as it's his sister, AND as you are kindly giving up your room, HE can bloody do it. How would that go down?

runningonwillpower · 14/08/2013 16:56

lovestogarden - depends. Are you the colleague with the domestic equivalent of tinnitus or are you the quietly seething person to next to her?

Inertia · 14/08/2013 16:56

Why doesn't sister sleep in his room then, and he sleep on the sofa ? He can tidy the room to his hearts content then.

FrigginRexManningDay · 14/08/2013 16:57

I'd tell him to fuck off to the far side of fuck.

Dorm inspection indeed.

StuntGirl · 14/08/2013 16:57

Got to go but will be back later.

Why didn't you say that to him Grin

MistressDeeCee · 14/08/2013 17:13

Even the thread title gave me a headache..! Ifeel for you OP. Although my DP is good in most ways he can be VERY anal about housework. He does his share, which is good - but I have a rule he is not allowed to lecture, discuss, whatever..housework with me. Ive zero interest in best way to clean cooker/how many times yearly it should be pulled out for cleaning behind/underneath. Without this rule Id be bored shitless by his endless housework tips & mind boggling pleasure at every completed task. You are very patient. Id have revelled in putting phone gently down on desk, eating a big bar of chocolate, only picking up phone every few mins to mumble 'mmm, ok yes...' Smile

ImNotBloody14 · 14/08/2013 17:16
Confused

why on earth would anyone stay on the phone for 20 minutes being nagged to by anyone?

answer phone, realise it's a nag, put phone down, deal with home stuff at home!

JohFlow · 14/08/2013 17:35

How about

'Honey when I am at work - I am at work; therefore I am not interested in non-emergency issues like the state of my bedroom. I am engaged in making work decisions, being professional and helping where I am needed. As we both benefit from my salary; I would appreciate your support to help me do this things unhindered'.

BrokenBanana · 14/08/2013 17:39

You're not allowed to read in bed?! Shock that's what beds are for! And sleeping of course.
What else is he controlling over?

I seriously think you need to grow a back bone and use some of the so far suggested phrases on him. You are not in the army, he does not get to boss you about.

ExitPursuedByABear · 14/08/2013 17:42

Hilarious. Tell him to do one.

BeauNatt · 14/08/2013 17:45

He sounds controlling. Read up on Emotional Abuse, OP. How long have you been together?

You're a grown adult, at work - I would never take a personal call that long in that context!

HoobleDooble · 14/08/2013 17:54

Not allowed to read in bed and being nagged to tidy your room? Did you mean to put DH or Dad? Nip it in the bud now!

CaptChaos · 14/08/2013 18:02

Couldn't give 2 shits if he's ex or serving, he has no right to whine at you like a spoiled child about your room. Next time tell him if it matters that bloody much to him, he is welcome to do it himself. WTAF does he think he is?

I'm very happy to tell him to bore off on your behalf Grin

DontmindifIdo · 14/08/2013 18:04

can I make a suggestion, if you normally have separate rooms but when you have guests, you go back to sharing, then why not have him move into your room and he can clear his stuff to accomdate his sister and move in with you...

ImperialBlether · 14/08/2013 18:05

OP, I'm your age and divorced. It's bloody lovely.

Just saying.

eurochick · 14/08/2013 18:07

HIS sister should stay in HIS room so HE should be the one tidying. Cheeky fecker. I would have put the phone down on the twonk.

ImpulsePineapple · 14/08/2013 18:27

OP, I'm your age and divorced. It's bloody lovely.

Just saying.

Grin
lovestogarden · 14/08/2013 18:51

Ha ha ha. Boody lovely!

Coffeenowplease · 14/08/2013 18:59

How do people put up with this ? Honestly ?

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atosilis · 14/08/2013 19:20

Well, well, well. Got home and he has said that he will come in with me and his sister can have his room. His room looks like it's been designed by Travelodge but at least it's completely empty of 'stuff'.

The reading stuff is that I'm selfish to read when he's trying to get to sleep.

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atosilis · 14/08/2013 19:24

He does threaten to 'do' my room which I don't want to happen.

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KatieScarlett2833 · 14/08/2013 19:26

I would have asked him what he was smoking as he clearly had lost the plot Smile
Is he your mother???

Shutupanddrive · 14/08/2013 19:27

LTB

MooseBeTimeForSpring · 14/08/2013 19:43

Christ on a bike. Was he a Regimental Sergeant Major or something? In surprised he doesn't want you to snap to attention and salute him when he barks his commands at you.

I bet his shoes are clean and polished ..

Mumsnut · 14/08/2013 19:56

I have a kindle Fire and can read in the dark - screen is softly lit.

Just saying ...

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