I have given up. Have come back off holiday last week and left 2 elder dds who had work committments (18,19. slightly better this year and house looked superficially clean but bathroom grimey etc.
now it has fallen into the pattern of again me doing all the work and them sleeping, one rang on the door this morning and woke me up after going for a run. not helping, not putting their stuff away etc.
I have come to the conclusion that I will not be going in their rooms to collect washing and if they want it doing, they must sort it out and bring it to me.
my yd wouldn't even take her clean clothes up yesterday and they don't do anything like unstacking dishwasher. they did clear up after a meal after i cooked it.
there is extra stuff in the house as my ED is back from uni and they have had a fundraiser event which is brilliant but means we have ended up with extra stuff in the house which again they won't deal with.
I will grin and bear it as dd will be back at uni in sept and other dd will be going away in Sept for a few months but will she ever finish tidying up and sorting out her room?
I like a clean tidy house but what can i do? i have done with shouting and ranting IYSWIM