To be really fed up with reverse aibus?

[K8Middleton]

Is this a thing now? I keep seeing outrageous aibus that turn out to be reverse ones and it is really very annoying. Why not just openly lay down the facts from your point of view like err, normal?

Nobody can ever know all the ins and outs of what another person is thinking or feeling at the best of times but when someone has their own agenda and bias they are just pointless.

Not a reverse aibu before some smart arse suggests that

But do they get a better perspective? Bearing in mind all the posters who have taken the trouble to argue the case one way or the other on this thread?

Interesting that there's mainly strong anti feelings or mild indifference so far. I've not changed my mind yet. Still think they're bolleux.

I don't much care for aibu in general either because of the sheer nastiness that seems to be common and I have the topic hidden. I do love a good bonkers thread though and they tend to be busy aibus so I find them on most active convos. But I disgress.

They annoy me too. I hate wading through pages of OMG, UBVVU, blah, blah.

Ages ago I read an AIBU where everyone was saying the OP was totally out of order, so she admitted it was a reverse AIBU and everyone still said she was being out of order. Not because they hadn't read the thread but because they both were unreasonable.

Just because people think the protagonist (so to speak) is being unreasonable, it doesn't follow that the real OP is reasonable.

If you are honest from the beginning at least people can give advice and ask questions.

If you don't like the reverse AIBU, stop reading AIBU

Well I hardly think you'd have to stop reading the entire thing because of reverses! They're thankfully still in the minority.

can not see the problem

i find it strange that so many get worked up on how others use aibu unless it to make horrible statement or bully

and i think this thread is a form of picking on others

and i think this thread is a form of picking on others

Really?? It's just a discussion, surely?

Can't see the problem either, might get people to read the thread properly or highlight OP's posts (which I have just twigged how to do which makes things easier).

Although I think I would find it really annoying if I had to wade through 10 pages before OP admitted it was a reverse AIBU, just think it should be admitted fairly early on (ish).

Oh give over Freudian. Melodramatic much? I have never picked on anyone on here ever. I've told it straight a few times but picking on others? No.

a link to one earlier today

a big fuss on that then a thread about how annoying it is

and look at the responses

i am surprised some on here do not explode with frustration over the way others post on their precious aibu forum

YANBU.

Don't do it people. You can recount the tale and put what you think the other party may have thought, but pretending to be someone else is dishonest.

I can't see anywhere on this thread where anyone has been unpleasant. A bit touchy? Maybe. Taken pains to explain themselves so as not to avoid offence? Yes.

I think the question asked is pretty tame for aibu.

They are pointless.

See this:

I am not going to my nephew's birthday today because I sprained my ankle. It's two minutes down the road and I don't have anything else to do. He really loves me and he'll be so upset, but his mum babies him and I think he should get over it, AIBU? (Written by sister A as a reverse).

Vs

I am meant to be going to DN's birthday but my best friend came over this morning to tell me she's lost another baby. Her DH stayed out all night last night after the news and she is distraught. For some stupid reason I called my sister and I told her my sprained ankle was playing up too much, I couldn't tell her the truth because it's private to my friend but I got flustered trying to think up a reason on the phone and we ended up snapping at each other a bit. AIBU? (Written by sister B).

No YANBU

Not only are reverse AIBU annoying, but I tend to judge the posters as v manipulative. Sorry but I do.

Then there are the AIBU that are actually stealth boasts, to demonstrate how wealthy or heroic people are. Get a life people.

I'm not new, no need to patronise thanks. Just some serious aggression over something that is annoying but not to that extreme.

I'm not sure about the posters who do it being manipulative. I do think some are a bit self-obsessed and/or lacking empathy, so are just unable to see things from someone else's point of view - but I don't know this to be true.

It is definitely a bit attention seeking but then so is everyone who starts any thread at all if we're going to strip it right back.

I do know they irritate me because they are pointless as so elegantly demonstrated by WeAll and others. I also harbour a suspicion that some of the op's are actually a big of a nightmare in RL but genuinely can't see it. We all have flaws we are totally unaware of or we wouldn't do whatever it is that is so off putting to others.

Serious aggression? Where? Mild irritation only here. Did you also miss my candy? The one that indicates a bit of fun? I wasn't patronising you. I was doing the opposite - including you in the joke.

But if you want to take this very seriously and take offence you'll have to play with someone else. I've laid out my views. There's no malice or hidden agenda.

Maybe I should have posted in site stuff? A bit more perspective and a bit less melodrama over there

I haven't taken offence, I take AIBU with a truckload of salt!

Also, I wasn't saying you were aggressive but there are some very posters on here IMO.

Oh I didn't read them as angry. More annoyed and exaggerating for effect or amusement.

Couldn't have put it better myself WeAll. We can only really state things from our own points of view, otherwise we are just projecting what we 'assume'.

Really annoys me. Mainly because it shows who doesn't RTFF, so they go on for ages with some who've seen the reveal and are agreeing with the OP, and others who just stick their oar in.
Actually, it's people who don't RTFT that is my biggest bugbear.
It's not hard to get the gist of a long one, just read the highlighted OP if you CBA reading it.