To be annoyed with dp over love of junk food?

[Cheeseatmidnight]

Dp loves junk food. His normal day starts with no breakfast, rarely does he have lunch but if he does it is normally coke, sandwich, crisps and chocolate. Dinner is whatever I make, but then he fills up all evening until midnight at least with biscuits, crisps, chocolate, coffee, and a couple of glasses of Pepsi.

He is an adult, can eat what he likes, but I am concerned about the effect it is having on dd (2.7)

I am typing this in a mini huff in the bedroom. He just came home and went straight to the crisp cupboard. Dd starts saying she wants some. I then look exasperated and say 'she has just had a really healthy dinner and it is nearly bed time' at which point he puts the crisps back and starts ranting that no dd, you cannot have any crisps, daddy isn't even allowed crisps....

Then I was rude and said he eats junk and I hate dd seeing him eat junk at all hours when I am trying I establish good eating habits.

I don't want to bend in it but he is an adult and can do what he likes. I feel he does need to realise that he is now a role model though and dd wants to be him.... She will copy him. I have the same issue with his pint of Pepsi at dinner when I offer her milk or water.

Huff huff immature huff...

He has just asked dd what she had for dinner... Answer was fajitas, salad, cheese, orange juice, banana.... She has a cube of brownie. This is now his get out clause.. He is saying overly loudly 'oh, brownie, I see! Is that healthy then dd?'

FFS

Should say she had a cube of brownie... With her banana.

he is an arse, make him save the junk until she is in bed.

He's being a dick. Yes, he can eat whatever he wants but deliberately not presenting a united front when it comes to your DD's diet is dickish.

or better still... stop buying it

Don't buy it.

Solved.

His eating habits aside - which you really don't have a say in - he sounds V immature.

He shouldn't be involving your DD in your arguments.

Thank you all! I am going to stand my ground on this. He is so far into his love of junk (don't get me wrong he has a great love of most food, he is just lazy) that he doesn't see that a bag of hula hoops and 'a sip of fizzy' isn't ok just for dd before bed.

I now have storming upstairs and scowling through bedroom door

I never had crap in the house before I moved here. Hate it.

I think you both need to get a grip.

I don't agree that "being an adult" is a get out clause for healthy eating. You need to get tough with your DP about his nutrition.

He is an adult....if he likes it he should be allowed to eat it FGS.

However, he should wait til dd is in bed.

Hotcrosspun- he is immature, and I struggle with many things which go below the surface. He prefers to strop and go for a drive in his noisy car

Grrr

Most of the time he is wonderful, but this issue is not going away

I am worried about diabetes to be completely honest. His style of eating and what he eats is scary.

I completely agree that he is free to choose, but not involve dd.

Please tell me what to get a grip about. This is a daily thing and I am clueless as to how to handle it

Have you tried just asking him nicely to eat the junk once dd is in bed?

Yes I have unfortunately, and it lasts for a couple of days the he goes back to it. I don't want to tell him what to do, that isn't what I am trying to do. I just hate the crisps and Pepsi feast when dd is still up

YANBU, he is. He is also acting like a child.

He does know that eating all that crap, high carb, high GI shit has him on the expressway to diabetes does he?? (along with all it's potential complications-heart disease, kidney failure, impotence, blindness etc) and all the fat in it should help clog up his arteries quite nicely as well, whilst pushing up his cholesterol and triglycerides.

If he wants to eat himself to death or disability thats his choice, but he is a complete dick if he thinks it's ok to teach your DD that this sort of stuff should be part of every day diet.

Right, am going downstairs to weather the storm.

Thank you Monty.... That is exactly my concern and that dd will go down the same road

Sorry, cross post re diabetes rubbish, slow typer

Totally agree I tend to hide my junk food for later.

In my house ds 5, knows he isn't allowed fizzy pop and now thinks he doesn't like it anyway. But obviously you can't really apply that to crisps and chocolate.

don't envy you trying to make him see sense. Sounds like he is burying his head in the sand a bit, but he does need to think about your DD a bit more. Good luck.

Thanks!

my partner only eats brown or golden food (nuggets,chips,burgers) but that will not stop me from feeding our 2 children a varied and healthy diet with a few treats regardless what they see him eat. I say things like 'daddy don't like (insert vegetable), how strange/weird/crazy! works for me

crisp/chocolate/sweets are a party food only