Work colleagues forgotten about me whilst on mat leave...

[FeelingABitLeftOut]

NC as I think some colleagues are avid mners!

I'm currently on mat leave...really missing work and have made a huge effort to keep in touch with colleagues, regular visits to work with baby, facebook, gone to social events organised for whole company etc.

Really thought I had a good relationship with my department, there's me and a few other women. When another woman was on mat leave last yr we always invited her out on department socials, she never came to any but was always invited as we didn't want to make her feel left out and really missed her as part of the team.

I logged on to Facebook today and there's a smug status from the head of department, tagging most of the others, saying what a lovely lunch they all had together. The ones who weren't tagged are not on facebook but could have been at the meal. AIBU to feel left out? I just feel like my friends have forgotten about me :(

I think you're reading too much into it. You've said yourself that it was you, and not the other colleagues, who made sure the previous person on Mat leave was remembered and included. I wouldn't take it personally. They would probably have forgotten to invite her to things as well if you hadn't been around to remind them.

To be honest, maybe you're also investing a little bit too much in workplace friends and need to make some firm friendships away from the workplace?

Maybe the other woman didn't like being invited to things when she was on ML for some reason and said "Oh, no, don't invite FABLO, I got really stressed when I kept being invited when I was just trying to enjoy my ML"?