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To find 9yo DD incredibly irritating?

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Reality · 09/08/2013 18:02

Before I start, I have to say that a) she is on a wind up and knows she is being irritating and b) I'm posting here in order to distract myself so I can deal with her appropriately and not be horrible and shouty.

It occurs to me that most of what she does seems very innocuous and if I tried to describe what she's doing you would think I was horribly and the worst mum ever.

Let's give it a go.

She is flollopping. Throwing herself across furniture. Aasking the same questions over and over again no matter what the answer. She is huffing air out of her nose, and tapping her fingers on the floor/table.

She is currently 'playing' with her two year brother, using my throw from the sofa. Every so often she is looking at me, because she is waiting for me to react, because she knows the throw lives on the sofa and not the floor (or wrapped round the baby).

Now, she is lying on the floor with her legs up in the air. Again, shooting me looks daring me to tell her off.

Every now and then she warbles a line from a song. Oh, she's just shouted across the room to ds1 that he's chubby (wtf?).

Earlier, we were in the cinema and she kept sniffing. She tapped her headband on her 3d glasses until I took the headband away.

She's just walked into the kitchen and punched ds1. Obviously my tactic of ignoring her winding up is not working.

That fight is over and she's now sitting under the table screaming at ds1 that it's all his fault.

Dh is dealing with all this nonsense calmly by the way. I'm on the sofa ignoring so I don't lose my rag.

Anyone else have a 9yo like this or are we just special?

Sigh.

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Reality · 09/08/2013 18:05

Sorry, that was going to be a list of the seemingly harmless silly wind ups she was doing but it developed into a real time spat.

She's back to just low level 'go on, have a go at me' winding up now. She's eating crumpets and licking her knife. And humming.

Give me strength.

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Pinkponiesrock · 09/08/2013 18:05

I've got a 7 yo like this, drives me mad! Everything I ask him to d

Bruthastortoise · 09/08/2013 18:06

All 9yo are annoying, it's a biological fact. (Apologies to anyone with a charming 9yo Smile). in my limited experience it's the most annoying age by far, 8 and 10
are lovely Smile

Pinkponiesrock · 09/08/2013 18:06

Oops posted too soon! Everything is ask him to do is such and effort, I'm so with you on the constant checking to see if I'm being wound up by his latest antics! Deep breaths.......

iago · 09/08/2013 18:10

I found my son was annoying (or worse) aged 7, 9, 11, 13, 15 and 17. Even numbers he was fine.

Bruthastortoise · 09/08/2013 18:12

Iago you could be on to something with that. 9yo DS is much more annoying now than he was at 8 but probably less so than at 7. My 6yo is a delight and the 3yo is a terror. Interesting Smile

50shadesofmeh · 09/08/2013 18:12

A very annoying age indeed , I feel bad for thinking it but the constant " I'm hungry" fussing over food, refusing to wash, jumping on furniture, saying " I'm bored " , sighing and humphing like a pre teen, incessant chatting and talking about computer games is hard work.

Reality · 09/08/2013 18:13

Ooh I don't like the sound of that theory. I think I remember ds1 being more annoying at 9, and at 10 he'smmostly lovely. He's 11 soon and dd has another 9 months of being 9.

Waaah.

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ChippingInHopHopHop · 09/08/2013 18:17

Wasn't it you who had the thread about DD huffing through her nose a while ago?? Grin

My (very close, like family) friends 9 year old is positively the most annoying little shit at the moment... has been for a while. She's pedantic (to a painful fucking degree about anything and everything!! and often wrong at that Grin), she does that 'look at you while doing something she knows she's not allowed/is annoying' with 'that look'... she annoys the living shit out of her brother... she's as messy as they come, greedy - all in all fucking painful and we are all hoping like hell come her birthday next year something changes or I swear she wont live to see the one the year after Grin

All her teachers think she's an angel HmmHmm I've suggested boarding school Grin

Chottie · 09/08/2013 18:18

She's just 9 years old and it sounds like she is trying to get your attention. Just asking, but have you spent much 1-1 time with her today?

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Spottypurse · 09/08/2013 18:18

I have an 11 year old like this. She's 12 just after Christmas. I like that theory.

Reality · 09/08/2013 18:19

Oh god the huffing makes me murderous.

And pedantic? It's not even funny. She corrects EVERYTHING. And she's very rarely right about it.

Please tell me this is a phase. I mean, she's never been the easiest of children but this annoyingness is almost unbearable.

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Flossiechops · 09/08/2013 18:21

I was going to say what chottie said. I have a 9 yr old dd too so I know what they are like! She sounds like she's seeking your attention especially if your ignoring her!

Reality · 09/08/2013 18:21

Ha. I was waiting for someone to say she's bored and wants my attention.

We have literally just come back from the cinema. This morning we did a jigsaw together, just us.

Yesterday was Legoland, Tuesday was Paultons Park, last week was center Parcs. Bored she ain't.

Honestly, it doesn't matter how much good attention she gets, she likes to push.

Bless her

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Spottypurse · 09/08/2013 18:22

Mine got flip flops for the summer. She insisted she could walk properly in them even though I know she can't. She slipes her feet. Slipes, scuffs them, I don't know what the proper term is. But it is horrendous.

And YY to the correcting everything - she corrects every word out of my mouth if my sentence construction is off even a bit she corrects me. And the looks I get would fell a horse.

thebody · 09/08/2013 18:24

sorry op she sounds funny. personally I would wind her up back iucwim.

Reality · 09/08/2013 18:24

Oh god the shoes. Dd has ballet flats and she sits there flapping them against her feet.

Aaaaargh.

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Reality · 09/08/2013 18:25

Ooh no, thebody. She can't take it. It would be tantrum city.

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Reality · 09/08/2013 18:26

Hahaha 'guess what my favorite moshi monster is? No, not that one. Nope. No. No. No.'

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pointythings · 09/08/2013 18:27

I have to say I dealt with this by winding back up - it did work.

My DD2 is much, much worse at 10 than when she was 9 - mind you, she's started 'developing' so it's probably hormones.

My DD1 at 12 is much easier to deal with - her teenage strops are totally predictable.

123rd · 09/08/2013 18:29

Oh dear. That sounds like my life ATM. My Dd is exactly the same. She is 9 too. Just the irritating low level behaviour really gets me. We are off on a two week hols tomorrow and I have just had a "chat" with her about her attitude. God help all of us !

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OddBoots · 09/08/2013 18:30

My dd is 10 so I know it's not easy but have you had a 'I know you're being annoying, you know you're being annoying, can we talk about why you're behaving this way please' chat with her?

As she has certainly had enough happening to keep her entertained maybe she is being over stimulated (or at least you could put that theory to her) and you need to do less with her and make her bed time a little earlier to allow her to chill out.

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