A wedding one... dress code on invitation

[MikeOxard]

AIBU or is this completely pointless - dress code on the invitation says morning dress or lounge suits for the men, traditional and hats optional for the woman. Isn't this a bit unnecessary to put on a wedding invitation, what the hell were they expecting their guests to turn up in, had they not included that guidance?

FWIW, because I know you love these details on a wedding thread, it's a no kids wedding, and they politely asked for money but not with a poem.

And a kilt with a tight white t and timberland boots is sexual Haha, this random comment made me laugh out loud!

They are quite posh. I'd be surprised if they'd ever spoken to anyone who didn't know how to dress for a wedding, let alone invite them, so it must be a 'wear your morning suits chaps' kind of message.

The wedding reception is being held in a big marquee I think.

He definitely wouldn't get in like that. I'd take him home to, err, 'change'...

Someone came to one of my weddings in denim jeans. I was not happy! I should have put a dress code on the invites!

If I get married my invites will say "Want to wear white? Stay at home!"

What's a morning suit? Embarrased to ask

Oh my Euphemia!

I'll be having me one of those next weekend when dh and I go to a wedding! He scrubs up well in a kilt!

I dont agree with giving money maybe vouchers or an unboxed gift or soft furnishings not boxed.

Morning suit is tails. Black jacket, short ay front, tails at back and grey trousers. At least that is what they all looked like at the wedding I went to where posh folk were wearing their own

Whilst it may not be in line with Debretts I do not think there is anything wrong with specifying a dress code. It leaves no one in any doubt as to what to wear.

I work opposite a really up market hotel and whilst so many of the wedding guests look fabulous there are also those thatturn up looking like they are dressed for a night on the town, women looking like hookers and men in jeans.

Military uniforms and Traditional Kilts with all the trimmings are acceptable along with morning suits or lounge suits.

Although that beans he will be breaking the cardinal sin of wearing black to a wedding! the chap with the beard is wearing dhs kilt

Means not beans!

I went to a wedding where there were a couple of people wearing jeans, trainers and football shirts. Everyone else were in suits and dresses. The bride was not happy!

I don't agree with specifying a dress code, e.g black tie. I think it's quite rude expecting your guests to spend even more money on an outfit they may not have. And secondly, I know how to dress for a wedding.

I would think the couple really rude to tell guests how to dress. I know how to dress for occasions.

noone at my wedding dressed inappropriatly as they too know how to dress.

I wouldn't invite anyone likely to turn up in jeans and trainers.

I cannot believe people go to weddings dressed in Jeans. I think its very disrespectful. You can get a shirt and tie from a charity ahop. There isn't really an excuse. I'm not married and never have been so I don't know why this bothers me. Its not hard to scrub up a bit.

A number of years ago my old neighbour got married, we walked up to the church to see the bride and groom emerge. A friend of the bride came out in a tracksuit, everyone else was dressed suitably.

that's incredibly disrespectful. weddings are defiantly dressy affairs. much better over than under dressed.

I would consider bouncers for dcs wedding. head the rude bastards off at the pass. jeans and trainers= no entry.

My SILs both wore woolly hats and scarves to my (winter) wedding. Not in an ironic way, just bog standard woolly hats and scarves. The group photos are hilarious!

I went to a family wedding a while back where some of the male guests thought it appropriate to turn up in football shirts and tracky bottoms

The brides sister married 18 months later, and the invitation included a very specific dress code!