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AIBU?

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to think women should not have to wear a bra when answering door to postman

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pookeyspartner · 08/08/2013 21:01

This is following on from armpit thread.

My lovely wife, saggy or not so saggy that is not a question, insists I go to the front door if the milkman, postman, chugger or deliver man knocks when she is braless (but wearing clothes obvs). She never goes to the local shops or anywhere in public without being fettered. I am a person who feels that the human body with hair or without hair, bra or without bra is fine, but like mr Tummnus do we not have a responsibility, not just to our children but to society as a whole, that the human body is natural and shouldn't have to be shaved, hoicked or implanted?

Am I alone in thinking its all a bit fake?

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MoominsYonisAreScary · 09/08/2013 08:52

Me too eating, always have a bra on.

Although I did answer the door to the gas man last week before realising one of the clips on my maternity bra was undone, he's lucky he didn't get a view of brestage hanging out the bottom of my top the way they are lately

ClassyAsALannister · 09/08/2013 08:57

I'm rather small chested but have 'kate moss' nipples...as in 'when kate moss is cold' and don't want to intimidate the poor postie...

I don't feel that I benefit from wearing a bra but wear it anyway because I'd get fed up of people not knowing where to look

FatPenguin · 09/08/2013 08:57

I once answered the door to the postman in my dressing gown, he gave me a funny look and practically ran back down the drive after I signed for the parcel. It was only when I went to get back into bed I realised my dressing gown was open and my right tit was hanging out.
Now I just don't answer the door

AwwCrumpets · 09/08/2013 09:33

At some of the replies.
If your dw doesn't want open the door bra less then so be it.
As for me as soon as I'm in the door I whip my bra off its comfier without a bra on,I'm not big chested so can get away with it and have no issue opening the door to anyone whatever state I'm in.
I do also go out bra less to shops if I'm enough layers to not get perky and on hot days too.

When you open the door the last thing some one should look at is your boobs unless openly presented.

Whathaveiforgottentoday · 09/08/2013 09:45

I would answer the door and put the bins out braless in my pygamas. However I wouldn't got out to the shops without a bra but then again I'm rather large and its not a good look without a bra and I don't feel properly dressed.

cushtie335 · 09/08/2013 11:06

I walk the dog in jammy bums, no bra and a trapper hat. The neighbours tend to avoid me...can't think why...

Fillybuster · 09/08/2013 11:11

We'd been living in our previous home for nearly 8 years when dc3 was born, and I had got to know our lovely postman pretty well....he became quite accustomed to me opening the front door with dd2 firmly clamped on in the early days, and I got pretty good at signing for parcels with my left hand! He never once batted an eyelid (helped that he has 4 dcs of similar ages), would discuss baby stuff for a few minutes and then leave. I wasn't 'showing' anything as the baby pretty much covered me anyway :)

Bless, he came by our house to tell me he was being promoted and wouldn't be doing the post run any more on the same day we decided to move....

bigfuckoffpie · 09/08/2013 12:00

Why do both this thread and the armpit one make reference to Mr Tumnus? I mean, I get the armpit one more because Mr Tumnus was hairy, but I don't think he wore a bra (unless he went on to become a drag queen in the post-White-Queen Narnian cabaret circuit).

MadeOfStarDust · 09/08/2013 12:10

I am also never braless - I have a sleep bra - and have lovely perky E cup boobs at age 49 having breastfed 2 kids for 2 years....

People often comment and ask "how?" or "are they yours?" - but.... when I say I have a sleep bra go oooohhh, couldn't do that etc....

BuntyCollocks · 09/08/2013 12:53

Am breastfeeding, and whilst at home, generally don't wear a bra. Nearly everyone has seen my unfettered, though covered, boobs.

Some have even had the rare joy of me answering with a baby latched on my breast. They are so lucky

Yanbu.

badguider · 09/08/2013 13:01

I LOVE bras - to me they are an implement of liberation and not opression. They allow me to run, jump, lift jiggle without any discomfort (which I do get without a bra).

I have never understood why the old fashioned feminist stereotype involved burning them. Without mine I'd have to walk around with perfect posture and never break into a run or even really bend fowards too much.

Having said that, I only go without overnight in pajamas, so a reluctance to answer the door the postie is as much do with generally being underdressed than bra-less. I shove a hoodie on top and am ok with that.

EBearhug · 09/08/2013 13:24

Mr Tumnus was hairy, but I don't think he wore a bra (unless he went on to become a drag queen in the post-White-Queen Narnian cabaret circuit).

Blimey, I missed that one in the series. And to think Susan didn't get to the Last Battle because she had taken up wearing makeup!

Anyway, as you were...

orangeandemons · 09/08/2013 13:31

Christ, I'm a J cup. I have to wear a bra to keep them under control. I would not answer the door to a postman without a bra

theodorakisses · 09/08/2013 16:07

The bra free link reminded me of the yoni thread. You will always be able to find "evidence" online but doesn't mean it is truthful. So, cancer is caused by bras? Ok then. I could probably find something that said cucumbers give you cancer, or balloons or socks or sunglasses or hobnobs.

PenelopeChipShop · 09/08/2013 16:14

Sounds like you have married a classy lady, don't complain. I wish I had such high standards but to my shame I have actually answered the door not only sans bra but with a baby latched onto one boob. Sometimes needs must. I would've asked dp to do it had he been there though.

PenelopeChipShop · 09/08/2013 16:16

Didn't read all before posting. Am glad Bunty has done the same! wonder if we have the same postman

Oblomov · 09/08/2013 16:18

I don't like wearing a bra. I want a supportive fitted top. Like a halfway between a bra and a strappy top. But they don't make such a thing. No idea why.
Anyone?

melika · 09/08/2013 16:20

no gotta have a bra on, dressing gowned, hair brushed or door does not open. Full stop.

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pookeyspartner · 09/08/2013 20:11

From the posts above i guess I see both sides. I often answer the door, esp in hot weather, in my large boxers, but peer around the door edge. If it is the postman, or a double glazing salesman or any undesirable cold caller I am happy to open the door wide and have a conversation. This usually puts the sales people off. Though if I know a woman is knocking at the door I would hide behind the door and never reveal my podgey belly, so shirt must be on. I don't care if its a man but do if its a woman so I can understand where dw comes from in a way.

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McAvity · 09/08/2013 20:17

Spot on OP, aren't women awful to be so insecure, they should all just get a grip or something. You wouldn't catch men behaving like this.

JodiLeighLeigh · 09/08/2013 20:27

I just answered the door to the takeaway guy bra less. ..that doesn't bother me.

However, being relatively 'gifted' as my OH calls it in the chest department, the pendular swing of my ample love bags would seriously deter me from leaving the house to do anything that takes longer than putting the bins out. If I was out of the house without a boob prison / tit sling / butty bag and had to run for any reason it would feel like they were trying to detach themselves...

I imagine a small boobed woman may not have so big an issue leaving the house, but greeting knockers by pointing their nipples at them might create some unnecessary embarrassment?

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