to bfeed dd to sleep

[fuglychicken]

Actually I am fully aware that its unresonable of me. I have created the giant rod for my own back and I feel I have actually done dd (21mnths) a massive disservice.

My dd will not/ cannot go to sleep at night without me cuddleing and bfeeding her to sleep. We have coslept from the beggining purely for convieniance as dd seemed happier and more settled resulting in a better night sleep for us all (me, dh and dd)

Now dd is coming upto 2, we want to give her indepedence and just to be able to self settle abit. I hate the thought that if something was to happen to me, dd wouldnt be able to cope with a normal situation of just going to sleep and would be so upset

I am not explaining myself verry well but I hope you get the general gist of what I mean....

Aibu to ask for help from you all? X

No way, Chicken, you are definitely NOT being unreasonable! You are, in my humblest of opinions, one of the best types of momma's out there: nurturing, giving, self-less. You are providing her the ultimate best start to life. (And I don't mean breastmilk, y'all, before you jump on my back saying I'm being FF-ist!) I mean, you're giving her the best start to life by giving herself yourself.

YANBU - I do that with my 15 month old and its lush. Each to their own and I'm sure our little ones won't still be doing this when they're 12. (Hopefully.......)

Is fine well and good and lovely ( my dd1) until it stops working properly or they wake every sleep cycle wondering where your nipple is (my dd2).

This happened to me and it meant my dc2 was sleeping badly and I was unable to do anything other than wait for her wake up. This was a disservice to her me and the rest of the family.

I have created the giant rod for my own back and I feel I have actually done dd (21mnths) a massive disservice.

This grates my shit. That's not you saying that. It's society.

You have not done anything wrong at all. You will be giving your baby the confidence and reassurance to be independent when she is ready. Feel proud of your decisions and do what feels right for you and your baby.

Don't beat yourself up for following your intuition, it feels natural to do so and the right thing, if you want your dd in the bed until she is 7 go for it don't let society dictate.

farthing

Nice sarcasm.

OP doing what you feel is right won't result in your DD being in your bed until she's 7.. or 10.. or 17..

I'm not being sarcastic, my step daughter co-sleeps with us and she is 7 and it's fine.

No you don't farthing

You don't have any children yet.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/a1815087-So-very-broody-need-some-sense-talking-into-me

It says on there you don't even live with your partner..

I may be mistaken, but I don't think I am..

She is a step child as I said, and attachment parenting is favourable in my opinion.
As you were.

Okay great