How should I take this?

[wherewouldyoulive]

My husband said in front of me, "I'm married to an idiot so I have to be struggling to find a flat for the next few years.'' He thought I didnnt understand his explanation how the property market works only because, he thinks, I expect him to find a flat which doesnt exist.

This is the first time he said this way after 5-6 years marriage. Next day I told him to assure me not to say this again and he said ok.

Where, I think that you are very sensible to recognise that if anxiety is an issue for you, it is a good idea to check things out with other people before you get too upset.

As well as posting here, I think that you could discuss it with your GP who may be able to recommend some techniques to control anxiety. I can recommend a book called "manage your mind" which you may have seen?

firesidechat & beastofburden, I have my private counsellor and I'm going to see her tomorrow.

That's good news.

Posting on here may be useful, but AIBU can be slightly harsher than some forums and may attract strong viewpoints. Perhaps chat would be a better place to ask for opinions.

I have no clue if this is a good idea or not and would welcome other posters comments. Perhaps a quick mention that you suffer from anxiety would be helpful to others and encourage more supportive replies. Generally people are very kind on here if they have a better idea of the situation.

Hope that helps.