To reply to my ex's text with 'fuck off'?

[chickensaladagain]

It's my birthday today

In the 13 years we were together he either forgot, happened to be ill but was fine the days either side, promised me we would do something special and then something would crop up, or on the rare occasions he bought me something it was actually something he wanted -like a cd rewriter!

Consequently for 13 years I would spend some if not all the day crying

He has failed to pay maintenance this month and as a consequence of prioritising putting food on the table I can't afford to take my children out to celebrate -we will be dodging showers having a picnic in the park

He has sent me a text at 6.50 this morning saying 'happy birthday, hope you have a lovely day xx'

Can I reply with 'fuck off'

It would make my day!

Not that I will but grrrr

Prick!

*I did however change his name in my phone to Cuntychops.

So when he does text or ring I have a little giggle to myself*

Great advice. My ex was monkeyfucker, or MF in case anyone saw!

wereonourway

He's actually listed as twatface lol

I won't reply, he's picking the dcs up tomorrow afternoon so I'll probably get an earful about being ignorant but I shall rise above it

Go through the CSA, your 'agreement' is clearly not working for you.

Happy birthday

If you don't reply then hopefully there's less risk of him ruining your day even more than he already has!

Hope you enjoy your picnic and have a lovely day - you deserve it! Happy Birthday!

Here's a genuine and warm Happy Birthday from me.

Just ignore and let the day be yours. Idiots will always be idiots but you can be a lovely mum to your children and have a great day.

I have a section for my ex in an email folder called 'Arsehole.'

I hope it's great weather and that lots of better luck is coming your way.

listed as twatface has made my day.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY CHICKEN SALAD

Happy birthday

I wouldnt reply at all today. Maybe tomorrow send one which says - had a lovely day with the children, birthday picnic in the park - cake, icecream and fun.

I have a Trampy Gary saved in my phone! Anyone that txt me without very very good reason at 650am would get a fuck off reply! Has he done that just to wake u up.

Have a lovely birthday and be happy that your at least not with him!

Hw about "thank you, please pay maintenance today as we can't afford a party" . Call his bluff.

First off - Happy Birthday

If he tries to give you an earful about not responding, you might say something on the lines of "I was planning on a lie in, and you woke me so despite you remembering for once, could you not have left it a few hours before sending?"

It points to his poor history wrt your birthday and a bit of a put-down about sending at a god-awful time in the morning (as if it woke you, even if it didn't)...

Hope things get sorted with finances.

I'd switch the phone off at night, if I didn't want something to wake me (as I remind my sisters, from time to time, because I've been known to send them an e-mail or text at 4 in the morning, because it happened to be a time when I was awake and didn't want to forget it - yes, I know, I should sleep like normal people do!)

PS Hope the weather is good where you are. Some poor s*d with a birthday tomorrow will almost certainly have rain for theirs, so hope that can put a smile on your face ! :)

wait a minute, this is your first birthday without him?

Right, you know what would really piss him off? a message like:

"Just seen this, busy day - but thanks! Have a lovely day lined up, looks like it'll be my best birthday in years! Oh, just to give you the heads up, am sorting out more formal maintenance arrangement as this informal thing doesn't seem to suit you. Enjoy your day, I'm off to be spoilt by some lovely people!!! Chickensalad"

He's expecting you to be skint, whinging, and having a crap time. Send that, then don't reply to any other messages, he's going to be wondering who's spoiling you, what you are doing, why you are so chipper even though he's not paid the maintenance and generally feeling like he's having a rubbish time while you're having a great one - but he can't have a go at you because on the face of it, he's sent you a 'nice' message, you've sent a 'nice' one back. Never let a bastard know they've upset you. It doesn't make you less upset and they actually want you to be unhappy so they've got what they wanted

(and Im sure your DCs will be trying to make it a great day for you, so you will be being spoilt! How about all make a birthday cake and decorate it together, that's not too expensive and you might have a lotof the stuff in already)

Ignore and get on to the CSA.

This is my 3rd birthday since we split

It doesn't get easier

I'd ignore it too. Go to the CSA, he'll get a 'nice' surprise. With any luck, the new assessment will be double what he used to pay before and they will backdate it to the date where you submitted the claim.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY Chicken . read your name as chickens a lad again .

Enjoy your day.

How about, "Thanks, having a picnic with the kids, then a date for my birthday, looking forward to it"

I wouldnt send it but its nice to imagine his raging jealousy.

Oh and Happy Birthday

Donts message is equally applicable at 3 years.

But I like pith so "FO" would work for me as you expect to be called names anyway.

Also Happy Birthday to you xxxxx

"Thanks! I'm treating myself to a court order for maintenance!"

This! send this!

Happy birthday :)

Happy birthday Chicken!

dontmind's text suggestion is excellent IMO, but have a great day whatever you do

Don't reply but definitely see the CSA this week. Three years without formalised maintenance? Why?

SanityClause response is gas,it would wreck his head haha

Sending hugs too, Chicken. It WILL get easier. Mine left me with cancer, a depressed teen and all the responsibilities of a home. They are cowards these men but you are worth 100 of him.

If I knew you in real life I would make you a cake!