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To rant about my children's now ruined brand new clothes?

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D0oinMeCleanin · 02/08/2013 15:31

I know I am BU but I am so pissed off I don't care.

My parents took my children camping at their expense for two weeks. This is awesome and I am incredibly lucky to have such a close and supportive family.

As the weather was hot and they've grown since last summer, I had gave them their holiday clothes for our holiday this year.

My parents have allowed them to go a play park in their brand, spanking new white shorts. They have not soaked the resulting stains as soon as they occurred, they've been through the wash twice with surf, vanish in wash and vanish spray on stain remover, nothing has touched it, they're now soaking in the sink with half water, half vanish. They're obviously going top need replacing Angry

I know I am lucky that my kids got a free holiday and in the grand scheme of things they're only shorts, but I am so fucking annoyed that no-one thought to ask them to change into more suitable clothing for going to the park in the mud. They'd only worn the shorts once.

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Ragwort · 02/08/2013 16:44

Just how much did these shorts cost in the first place, you must have spent a fortune on stain removers so far? Hmm

Don't ask your mum to get the stain remover - that's really rubbing salt into the wound (pun intended Grin).

veryconfusedatthemoment · 02/08/2013 16:45

CBA to read whole thread, but they are ruined for best - give the kids some fabric pens and let them colour them on a rainy day :) Kills 2 birds - kids have fun and the shorts look colourful :)

You had 2 weeks on your own. WOW - my DM is begrudgingly looking after DS for 1 day next week, so I can work. YADBU.

FadedSapphire · 02/08/2013 16:45

How about hot washing the cerise play suits with the white shorts.
Hey presto- nice pink shorts.
Problem solved.

UnexpectedStepmum · 02/08/2013 16:45

DH and I have no sane family in this country and have been out alone together a total of five times since DD1 (3 and a half) was born. We are unlikely to have two weeks away from DCs for at least fifteen years.

If you do have to say something to your generous parents, and they somehow interpret that as spoiled and ungrateful, my two affectionate, practically dressed children would love some surrogate grandparents. They could wreck as many of their clothes as they want it's all hand me downs or eBay buys anyway

Shutupanddrive · 02/08/2013 16:46

Are you serious? Shock
You can't be

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D0oinMeCleanin · 02/08/2013 16:46

I don't remember exactly how much they were, but they were from Tesco so I imagine they were around a tenner and yes, I really liked them.

Yes, the playsuits have got stains from the denim. I was not expecting them to wash anything at all. They told me they had no access to washing machines, but then my sister decided to go home for a night to do some washing.

If I'd known they were going to do washing I'd not have sent the playsuits at all, they are the kind of thing I wouldn't trust my mum to wash in a million years. She bleaches or boils everything, she ruined countless pairs of jeans when I lived there despite me begging her to let me do my own washing.

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D0oinMeCleanin · 02/08/2013 16:47

I wasn't going to ask her to pay for the stain remover, I was gonna give her the money for it.

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2468BONJOVI · 02/08/2013 16:47

OP, you are now sending your mum to get the stain remover?
and your sister was doing the washing?
the jokes about the lady's maid seem a bit more on point now

There is such a divide between those who have people to help them and those who don't. I used to think people who moaned about it should grow up, well I still think it is not really on to moan about it. but seriously people who don't have to pick up their own shopping and have time to prioritise animals don't have any bloody thing to complain about

And you don't need to throw the shorts away, fgs. If you have learnt anything it is that your daughters need clothes that can be worn for mucky play

RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 02/08/2013 16:48

That isn't the point.

2468BONJOVI · 02/08/2013 16:49

but.... if the cerise play suits were not for playing in.... why are they called that? why are they not called disco suits?

magimedi · 02/08/2013 16:50

YABVVVVU

You are lucky enough to have a Mum who obviously loves her GCs & takes them on holiday for a week & you moan about a couple of supermarket pairs of shorts getting spoilt.

Grow up & count your blessings, I don't think I've ever read such an unreasonable post in AIBU ever.

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D0oinMeCleanin · 02/08/2013 16:53

I don't drive BonJovi and my works right near the nearest Sainsbury's which is in the next town to ours. That is why I was going to ask to her to call in when she walks past it to get to her car. She parks in Sainsbury's car park while she is at work.

And I don't know why they are called play suits, I guess you would have to ask River Island that one.

I did not ask my sister to wash any thing, I had no idea she was going to go home to do washing.

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IloveJudgeJudy · 02/08/2013 16:53

YABSoU. Your DC get taken away for 2 weeks at no expense to you and you're moaning about a couple of bits of clothing? I cannot believe this is for real, apart from you've been on this board for a long time.

You knew your DC were going camping, not to a 4-star resort on holiday. You should have sent them with clothes you didn't mind getting dirty if you're so precious about them. You really can't say anything about the playsuits, really.

Put a colour catcher in the wash with them. Don't let them get dry after you've washed them. That quite often helps.

Sirzy · 02/08/2013 16:55

So you are upset because they didnt clean one thing and they did clean another. They can't win can they!

LingDiLong · 02/08/2013 16:56

See, you say the shorts were 'obviously' for evening wear but it wouldn't be obvious to our parent's generation. 'Posh' clothes would have been dresses for girls not shorts.

Seriously, your parents and sister didn't do anything that terrible. Kids clothes do get ruined quickly unfortunately. And I think you were unlucky with the colours running, I do umpteen washes a week and I always lump all coloured stuff in together. They weren't outrageously careless, really they weren't. It's not like your parents handed them a tin of emulsion or bleach and let them play with it.

For future reference, 'evening wear' on a campsite is pretty much the same as day wear - old, muddy, creased clothes sported by kids who haven't had their hair dressed in a couple of days. Kids tend to run feral when camping.

ProphetOfDoom · 02/08/2013 16:56

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OnTheNingNangNong · 02/08/2013 16:59

I would turn down the next invitation your parents offer to take your children away. Goodness, what a load of fuss.

2468BONJOVI · 02/08/2013 17:00

But that is still quite an imposition. If you ask someone to go into a sainsburys and pick up a particular thing, that is a good 20 minutes by the time they have found it and paid for it, or more. And their feet might hurt. I would struggle to ask dp to do this to be honest, let alone anyone else. I am not having a go, I just often wonder at how people live. Is this normal? Is this why I feel alone and depressed? [sob]

I am going to sit down and write a list of things to sort my life out

  1. Get some people I can ask to do things, like buy things it would be inconvenient for me to get
  2. Get some people who will take my children away for a lovely active holiday for 2 weeks
  3. Get my children some matching white shorts and some matching cerise play suits
  4. Have a second holiday planned (for them, my first) which is so smart that they need new white shorts and cerise play suits
mumeeee · 02/08/2013 17:01

YABU white shorts wouof get dirty anywhere. Also why do they have to have different shorts to go to the pub in? I never used to change my DDs into different clothes for the evening.

maja00 · 02/08/2013 17:06

Kids clothes are for kids to play in, surely? Especially on a camping holiday.

If I took some children camping and they came with supermarket clothes I would assume they were just every day clothes for playing in.

LingDiLong · 02/08/2013 17:06

Bonjovi - are you for real? You wouldn't ask your partner to pop into a shop and get something for you?? What's that about?

sparkle12mar08 · 02/08/2013 17:06

Seriously D0oin, let it go. Let It Go. Family support is invaluable and you would be cutting of your nose to spite your face it go go in heavy footed about this, especially in your situation.

2468BONJOVI · 02/08/2013 17:09

Lingdilong - I could ask dp - I just wouldn't. I have done when I was really scratching my head about something and he does do it, but it doesn't come easily to me

Both of us have very little spare time. If I asked him to do it, it would be his lunchbreak, which is his only time. I would ask him to to do this only if I couldn't see another way

3littlefrogs · 02/08/2013 17:10

My DC only ever went on camping trips with clothes bought in charity shops and at car boot sales.

When they came home the clothes were all binned.

I thought everyone did that.

lljkk · 02/08/2013 17:11

If it's the worst thing that happens all year you'll be thanking your lucky stars.
Lessons learned and all that.

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