to feel a bit uneasy with my husband being naked in front of DD (10)?

[prettybutclumpy]

I am probably being silly, but recently I have become a bit more sensitive to seeing my husband being naked in the company of my daughter, just while he's getting dressed in the morning for example. The other day when on hols he was lounging around in his pants, and we both got a lovely view of hairy bollocks! It doesn't seem to bother her, but I don't really remember seeing this from her age upwards, as my parents were quite square about these things. She is definitely in puberty now, but I don't really know if that's relevant. AIBU?

I think its healthy for children to see adults naked and comfortable with their own bodies so they know that bodies are nothing 'rude' or to be ashamed of.

If you want to raise it I would just say to him jokingly 'I wonder how long it will be before the sight of your hairy balls mortifies poor DD!' so that it puts the idea in his head that he may soon have to be more careful.

I don't think it's 'healthy or unhealthy' really. it's different strokes for different folks.

we have 2 lads who were 9 and 10 when we had their little sisters so by the time they were teens they were covering up because that's what they wanted to do.

we all knock on each others doors and respect eac others privacy. that's just us.

think your dd will soon tell your dh to cover up if it embarrasses her.

GrendelsMum whatever do you mean?

It means you get an early idea of what real bodies look like, rather than only ever seeing them airbrushed in magazines.

But my naked body does look like it's been airbrushed.

NOT!

just tell him to put his bollocks away if theyre hanging out of his pants.

If hes just getting changed or wandering around, i dont see the big deal. Just bodies innit

I think it's very healthy to go be naked around your children. If your daughter has a problem, she'll voice it.

I had both my parents wander naked in my youth from the shower to their room for instance or when getting changed or in the bathroom (we all accessed the bathroom freely even if someone was showering - separate toilet I may add) so had quite a lot of exposure in that way and now I think it was a healthy attitude! I'm sure in my teenage years, I avoided being naked in front of them, but it certainly never bothered me to see them. And now, aged 35, when I go and visit my mum, we will still have chats in the bathroom whilst she's showering and I have no problem being naked in front of her!

Wow...... I can just imagine my dad's response if I had told him to cover up!!

It would've contained the phrases my house when you're paying the mortgage and what I damn well please

I think it's hugely problematic that just because a child goes 'ewww Daddy' suddenly their own father needs to become all careful. Having a problem with seeing your own dad's body is a squeamish, immature hang-up that the child needs to get over. IMO.

I remember my dad striding across the landing from bathroom to bedroom stark bollock naked

I was more fascinated by the fact he was so hairy he looked like he was wearing mohair pyjamas than his actual bollocks.

Like everyone else, the dcs (ds and dd) come into the bathroom/bedroom when we are naked.

Ds (10) is just starting to develop a sense of privacy. Oddly, he would happily jump into the shower with either of us if we let him and would still play in the bath with dd but won't get dressed in front of anyone. He also would never let dd's (9) friends see him with no clothes on despite running around naked with them a few years ago.

Yeah don't mention it to DH unless your DD asks you too. The human body is nothing to be ashamed off, it's not there to be solely sexual. My dad would get dressed on the landing if he was mid conversation with my mum, I'm sure he never gave it a second thought. I and BB didn't.

Well, we're a 'pants on' family. I have never seen my dad naked (thank god) and my mum only a handful of times. It hasn't done me any harm, for us its more of a dignity thing i suppose. Theres nothing shameful about the human body i just think we all think we look better with our clothes on. Not something I really think about though. It's what's right and comfortable for your own family and all families are different.

As an aside, When seeing a naked man for the first time sexually, I was certainly not traumatised (quite the opposite in fact hehe)

Like a couple of other posters here, my parents were prudish and always covered up, and DH and I have gone the opposite. DS and DD are 7 and 6, and so far, neither seems particularly bothered by nudity...both children will happily jump into the shower with either of us without a thought. My view is, when they start to get uncomfortable with it, then we'll be more careful, but at the moment, no one seems to mind.

I'm another one who grew up in a house where it was normal for people to go naked from bathroom to bedroom (or vice versa) - at least in summer. It was a house with no central heating, so didn't tend to do it in winter out of sheer practicality.

I found it really weird that my first boyfriend wouldn't go out of the bedroom with even a bare chest, even when it was only us in the house, all the curtains were closed, and we'd just been naked together in bed.

My Dh grew up with no father and in a house with mum and a sister and has a thing about not being comfy walking around naked. Even when it's just us he'll be naked in bed and the shower and bath with me but won't walk around naked... I think it's a shame. I don't want our ds to grow up like that but i guess he'll probably follow his dad's example

I'd leave it till she mentions it. My girls were fairly young when DS was born and, having bathed together or watch us bathe him, realised males are different from females from early on, and how. I remember DD1 looking at her baby brother and saying, 'He has a funny lulu.'

I'm from a naked family and i'm a nudey person. I wouldn't cover up in front of my dc at any age. My parents and i are still happy starkers in front of each other, no one has ever been embarrassed. We don't even close the bathroom doors.

DD2 would have just started to tell him to put some pants in at 10. At 12, she mostly, refuses to let us see her naked.

Mostly because she still doesn't always remember and I don't remind her. (She's only just started getting breasts and no periods yet, so I like to keep a quiet eye on how quickly she is growing up). She isn't the openest of characters. DD1 happily took pads to school just in case for a year. Said she wanted a bra and just pinched my razor and shaved her legs and under arms. DD2 isn't that cool headed and matter if fact.

Likewise said 15y doesn't live a monkeys if DH or me are dressed and only bothers herself to keep DD2 quiet.

My dad didn't/doesn't care. My DM is a large lady and slightly more self conscious, she doesn't deliberately walk around naked, but she never worried if we wandered in.