To feel like a failure in not spotting my DS's broken finger earlier?

[JohFlow]

On the last day of term my son came back from school and said that during a football match he had dived for the ball (as goalie) and a friend had landed on top of his hand. I looked at the hand and it looked swollen but presumed it was just bruised. A few days later the bruising went black and I became more concerned but something came to mind that 'you should wait till the bruising subsides a little before having it checked'. This I did. Finger could be moved and my son did not seem in pain apart from the first day. When the bruising started to dissapate - it was much clearer that his finger was deformed.

I have just spend two days in the hospital having it checked out. I have been told that repair is easier in the first 7 days before the bone starts to knit together again shortly after. My DS has signs of some re-setting in the wrong position.

He has to have an operation tomorrow to put everything back in line.

Feel that my slow reactions have complicated things.

[minniem]

I have broken many a finger over the years. Some where not apparent for a few days but they are fine now.

DS15 has had a few finger breaks(cricket), they seem to have healed well.

[NobodyLivesHere]

My dd walked round with a sewing needle embedded in her foot for 2 days...she came to me crying that her foot hurt, I looked, couldn't see anything, so gave her calpol, she complained a bit but was fine at school, it wasnt til she got in the bath and her foot was swollen that I took her to a&e, even the doctors were looking at me like a neurotic lunatic until the X-ray came back :/
An operation and 20+ stitches later she was fine!

[ResponsibleAdult]

Easiy mistake to make. You've done nothing wrong.

DP has broken his arm, sporting injury, and none of us spotted it.

I have broken at different times nose, ribs, collar bone (clumsy) and didn't spot it.

Daughter broke both arms, only spotted one of them for the first week. Second at check up, sporting injury.

Only time we guessed correctly was when DS broke both arms, sporting injury, and couldn't get up off the ground attention seeker , joking

Hmm, perhaps we should give up sport in this house [sceptical] oh, and BTW, one of us is medically trained . No one has x ray eyes.

[sunshinecity17]

'My arm became dislocated at the elbow, it had happened once before a couple of years previously.

My Mother could not be bothered to take me to the hospital so in the kitchen scullery with sun streaming through the window, I can still see all the teeny bits of dust floating about in it. She pushed my dislocated arm back together, it was bloody agony.'

To be fair 'pulled elbows' often do pop in again quite easily.I remember my brother's used to do this all the time.Oftn by the time we had got to A&E it had popped itself back in, so eventually my mum used to just push it back in.It's a very run of the mill thing.i don't think your mum was neglectful