My ds is 7. He has a physical disability which is mild but which means he can't fully participate in children's active games. He has mild learning difficulties. He also struggles behaviour wise, his moods are very volatile, he can lash out physically at times when he is scared or unsure of the situation, and he is prone to screaming when he is frustrated. We work on all these things but it is hard. While he has all these difficulties they are all mild to moderate and not "in your face obvious" if you see what I mean.
We are currently visiting my home country for the summer. Ds struggles here more than at home because he only speaks the language a little bit. We have so far met up with two sets of friends (separately) and with my brother's family. I feel increasingly sad because all the children we have met up with have excluded ds and/or have been openly hostile to him. This has been the case in the past but until now I tried not to see it. But now I feel so sad, in particular because the adults seem to make no effort whatsoever to influence the way their children deal with ds. Trying to explain about ds difficulties. It feels like they think as well that ds is hard work and annoying (which he frequently is) so who can blame their children for not wanting to bother with him? But ds is also the sweetest most loving boy imaginable who so wants to belong.
The one thing that keeps me going is seeing how his older sisters look out for him. But other than that, I feel so sad and like not wanting to come back.