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To pray that smug mothers of little girls are ...

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ReallyTired · 28/07/2013 23:22

....sent a beautiful bouncing baby boy torando as their second child.

Those of us with two children realise that nature has a huge affect on a child's personality and ablity to behave.

I have two children and both of them are lovely now. However my son was permamently on the move as a two year old and we used to call him captain chaos. He was the sort of kid who would be into every cupboard, had the wooden spoon in the baby olympics or baby ivory league. (ie he had no desire to read Pride and Prejudice at the age of 2)

My daughter has a very different temperment. She is far more compliant, loves drawing jigsaws and isn't a muck magnet. I am sure that if she had been my first I would have been unbearably smug.

Boys take longer to grow up and my son at the age of eleven is lovely most of the time. He is still a muck magnet, but he has plenty of friends and doing well at school.

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MammaTJ · 28/07/2013 23:56

DD1 was a perfect child. Then she hit her teens and was hard work.

DD2 is the whirlwind in my family.

DS is my reward for not having killed his sisters. Calm, placid and cute. Grin

Secretswitch · 28/07/2013 23:58

thebody, she IS a badass.

MyThumbsHaveGoneWeird · 29/07/2013 00:05

DS is calm and quiet, likes staying home, doing puzzles and being read to. Very tidy and clean and not particularly physical. Threads like these make me go Hmm. Are there still people out there who really believe that gender is so important? Is this 2013 or 1953?

BigBoobiedBertha · 29/07/2013 00:08

There are smug mothers with children of both genders. Mothers of boys who are glad thay don't have highly strung temperamental girls and mother of girls who who think boys are just noisy dirt machines.

All are silly for making such sweeping generalisations.

I have 2 boys who are as different as chalk and cheese and neither fits the stereotype of what boys are supposed to be like all the time or even 50% of the time. They are individuals like all children and goodness for that too! Who would want them to be all the same?

sashh · 29/07/2013 00:10

Good grief, stereotyping at its worst.

louisianablue2000 · 29/07/2013 00:10

And OPs like this are the reason I quite fancied a boy for DC3, so no-one could tell me I was a 'smug mother of girls'. So far DS has been no more trouble than his big sisters, although admittedly cleaning poo off a scrotum is a delight I'd not experienced up to now.

MamaChubbyLegs · 29/07/2013 00:10

Are you reallyreallyreallytired ReallyTired? (Or am I?) because none of this made sense to me Blush

princessnumber2 · 29/07/2013 00:11

Are there still people out there who extrapolate from a sample of two? Or even three?

My youngest daughter is a thrill-seeking, outdoorsy type, obsessed with balls, cars and danger. She climbs everything and is embarrassingly loud and aggressive.

Eldest had her moments but mostly calm and risk-averse. I was never smug though and I didn't claim to have created her temperament with my wonderful parenting.

MurderOfGoths · 29/07/2013 00:11

I'll be sure to tell DS that he's letting his gender down. Hmm

sweetiepie1979 · 29/07/2013 00:16

Really tired I just read your post again it's the dreariest most smug post ever written......"those of us with 2 children bla blah blah. Get over yourself

PramelaAndherson · 29/07/2013 00:26

Grin MalteseFalcon

RubyThePirate · 29/07/2013 00:29

Is this the Sunday night wind up?

Pramela, yours is the best username I've ever seen on MN Grin

PomBearWithAnOFRS · 29/07/2013 00:30

Ha! I have 5DCs Hmm with my one and only DD in the middle of four brothers and I can honestly say that she is "more work" than all four boys have ever been. She is inquiring and imaginative and talkative and currently seems to be 11 going on 40 Confused and I wouldn't change her for the world, neither would I ever put her personality and who she is down to Being A Girl Confused Likewise I would never put anything her brothers say/do down to them Being A Boy - they are who they are, regardless of their X and Y chromosomes...

Angelfootprints · 29/07/2013 00:35

Huh?

Baby ivory league?

2 years olds reading Pride and Prejudice?

EH?

McNewPants2013 · 29/07/2013 00:50

My son is hard work, but I know how to calm him down all I need to do is let him go into his own little world.

Dd likes to challenge me. She is a pink loving diva.

I love both as them as individuals they are.

I come from a large family and I can say my 2 nieces out of 6 are a dream to have the other 3 are whirlwinds the other one isn't born yet. My nephews are the same each different ( I also have 6 nephews)

Mimishimi · 29/07/2013 00:56

I had a little girl first. She was (and still is) quite demanding and messy although lovely in other ways. My son has serious speech problems but is able to amuse himself and is as neat as a pin (like seriously orderly - doesn't get it from me but from his dad).

peteypiranha · 29/07/2013 06:18

You win the award for post of someone who has the least experience with children if this is what you think.

Quetzalcoatlus · 29/07/2013 06:21

I'm going to say what my 8 year old says when he's lost for words...

RANDOM.

Chopstheduck · 29/07/2013 06:25

HA! Wait til your daughter hits puberty!

Agree with everyone else though, children are all different regardless of gender.

D0oinMeCleanin · 29/07/2013 06:25

Compliant? Little girls? Compliant? Someone forgot to tell dd1 this....

her favourite phrases include "I am not wearing that", "Well, if I have to wear trainers, I just won't go" "I am dressed suitably for the weather, I have tights on"

Chopstheduck · 29/07/2013 06:26

I was smug like you once. My dd was quite demanding of my time and attention and an evening screamer. Then I had ds1 who was calm and quiet and happy to sit in his bouncy chair for hours. He even did as he was told when he reached toddler age. I thought I had got parenting all sussed out.

Then I had twins!

wigglesrock · 29/07/2013 06:38

I have 3 daughters, I live in a constant bubble of smugness, I'm the smuggest in all the land of smuggington - happy now?Hmm

LookMaw · 29/07/2013 06:44

OP are you my mum?

My brother was a nightmare child

BeaWheesht · 29/07/2013 06:44

My dd is much harder work than ds, much grubbier, much naughtier, has climbed anything since 10 months and was a regular at a&e for a while.

So, from my statistical sample of 3 I can conclude girls are 'worse' that boys.

or gender is almost irrelevant and they're just their own little people

BeaWheesht · 29/07/2013 06:45

2!!!

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