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AIBU?

to think that an 'estimated' due date in 2013 is not good enough

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Thyeternalsummer · 26/07/2013 11:40

Getting exceedingly p'd off with the whole EDD thing. 38 + 6 today and baby theoretically due next Saturday. But of course could have been born at any point in preceding two weeks, or two weeks after.

Which is a bit crap really. They probably predicted baby's due date with as much accuracy 500 years ago.

Surely there must be some statistical analysis taking into account baby's size, previous pregnancies, mothers weight/height, genetic indicators etc which would let you predict with greater accuracy than 'some point within x four weeks'.

Bet if it was men that got pregnant, your due date would be calculable down to the hour and you'd receive daily count down text reminders!

As you can tell, I'm a bit fed up!

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ICBINEG · 26/07/2013 12:32

You would think there would be a blood test though...so you could do a prick test and get a much more accurate estimate...

It would be like the hCG in the early stages...you have to plot your own levels but then it is a very accurate date/health of baby indicator.

Thyeternalsummer · 26/07/2013 12:35

Really hope the 'bull factor' isn't going to apply in this case. Partner's ex wife was 10 days overdue giving birth to their daughter. He might be in serious danger if I go overdue, and can pin it on him!

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PostmanPatAlwaysRingsTwice · 26/07/2013 12:44

Lol at 'prick test', we know that's working fine.

All anyone can say is relax, summer, it will happen!

CrazySexyCool123 · 26/07/2013 15:45

My boy was breech. If they couldn't work that out until 40+10 appointment then getting an exact date is a long way off!

ohnosnow · 26/07/2013 16:36

At least you will have your baby in the year you were told. I was due to have ds in Dec 2010 he arrived 13 days late and the next year 2011.

Good luck now it won't be long.

icklemssunshine1 · 26/07/2013 16:42

See the positive - you're pregnant & having a baby. I lost mine in February, I would live to be "fed up of being pregnant".

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 26/07/2013 16:46

You can usually predict that you will go into labour at the most inconvenient time possible.
e.g.
(me) on the bus on way home from shopping in Central London (carrying the shopping bags from the bus stop was fun - DH was in work driving so I couldn't call him to help)

(SIL) in the middle of Xmas dinner

I suggest you find something you really want to do perhaps book a ticket for the cinema or a play that you really really want to see as that will guarantee labour starts.

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 26/07/2013 16:48

ickle
I am very sorry for your loss.

I think this is meant to be a fairly lighthearted thread and may not be the best place to deal with the pain you might be feeling. Please be kind to yourself.

ChestyNut · 26/07/2013 16:52

ickle

Thyeternalsummer · 26/07/2013 17:46

I'm sorry for your loss ickle.

I hope that you'll get the chance too to get to the stage of being fed up with being pregnant. No matter how wanted a baby is, everyone feels that way at some point. Unless they're a saint whose body was specifically designed for childbirth....and even then, I'd bet they'd be a tiny bit fed up too.

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ZingWidge · 26/07/2013 18:03

sorry OP but you can only tell the exact date of birth AFTER the baby is born.

anything else is an educated guess. and it will always be. bar being able to see into the future.

aamia · 26/07/2013 18:14

Focus on 42wks. By then you will either have had the baby, be in labour, or be being induced.

Kiriwawa · 26/07/2013 18:18

Being fed up of being pregnant is nature's way of making you not dread labour :)

ZingWidge · 26/07/2013 18:25

oh and 500 years ago it woud have been "you'll have a baby by Harvest"

lillibet1 · 26/07/2013 20:56

hormones talking ice cream chocolate cake relax by a window

littlepeas · 26/07/2013 21:02

I actually think it is better not to know. I had dcs 2 and 3 by planned section and, although it was from excitement rather than nerves, I did not sleep a wink the night before, either time. Not brilliant to lose your last night's decent sleep for a while!

Pigsmummy · 26/07/2013 21:13

Focus on edd + 14 and try to calm down, your baby won't come if you are stressed. Have a think about everything that you want to do before baby arrives, then do these things and reeeeeelax. You can also ask to be induced. Getting yourself worked up is not good for either your baby, scrub some floors, go for a nice meal, try flight socks for swollen ankles.

Fillyjonk75 · 26/07/2013 21:19

What's the bull factor?

I think everyone has a slightly different gestation period as well. DDs both took 41 weeks to cook. Be thankful it is no longer 30C+ as it was in 2005 when I had DD1 in July.

ScariestFairyByFar · 26/07/2013 21:23

Maybe they should just give up on EDD and give a due month. Far less frustrating

ShadowMeltingInTheSun · 26/07/2013 21:26

Sadly it's just not possible for anyone to tell you exactly when the baby will arrive - there's too many variables in there.

DS turned up 6 weeks early - my waters broke at 33 weeks, and I went into spontaneous labour at 34 weeks. I had a debrief with the consultant when DS was a few weeks old, and she basically said that they had no idea at all why he was early. Not a clue.

There's just too much that they don't know about what makes labour start in the first place for anyone to give a precise date of birth in advance.

Phineyj · 26/07/2013 21:32

I can see why it is difficult to predict given all the variability in humans but it's so annoying that then everything gets based on this very vague date (actually in my case I was given three!) and then there is this rush to induce which surely in some cases must mean they are trying to get the baby out rather too early.

My DH is good with statistics and analysed all my various scans and measurements (I had a lot due to complicated case history) and his estimate was more accurate than any of the medics!

YANBU, it is very frustrating. But possibly better than being a farmer when all the cows and sheep pop at once .

Lonecatwithkitten · 26/07/2013 22:21

Filly 'bull factor' explained up thread in cows it is single biggest thing that affects length of pregnancy.

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idiot55 · 26/07/2013 22:22

Sounds like you may be about to pop!

Chill out. Of course no one can tell!

Lweji · 27/07/2013 01:37

Bet if it was men that got pregnant, your due date would be calculable down to the hour and you'd receive daily count down text reminders!

By your reasoning there wouldn't be any ED. :)

I think the unreliability of the due date is to prepare you for being a parent.
So, you like predictability?

WandaDoff · 27/07/2013 01:41

They got it right 2 out of 3 times with me.

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