To not want my cleaner to bring her 3 grandchildren to my house when she cleans?

[thefuturesnotourstosee]

Age 7, 9 and 11. I allowed it once as a one off thing during the Easter holidays and they were appalling behaved. They raced all over the place shouting, broke a couple of mugs and one of dd's toys and drunk all of the lemonade and ate all the crisps from the cupboard before I realised (they never asked they just took them). They also swore a lot.

I spoke to cleaner at time and asked her not to bring them again as really she didn't get much cleaning done . Now she's rung and left a message saying they're coming with her tomorrow as "her dd has no child care". I don't want them here. I've already got 2 of DD's friend's over so there will be 4 children in the house anyway.

I phoned cleaner and suggested she comes on Monday instead as its not convenient to have the children here and she said she'd bring them then as she's looking after them for the next 2 weeks. I told her that as I'd said at Easter it didn't work having them here and to let me know when she could come without them and I'd give her some extra hours then. She got very stroppy with me and said I was discriminating against her and I had to allow it. I told her no meant no.

AIBU?

When I had a cleaner a few years ago it started off OK and then she asked if she could share the job with her friend who was also a cleaner. It was fine for a few months and then I came home without notice to find 5 children in my living room with one with her feet up on the table and another trying to work my DVD!

Then they fell out with each other and I decided I didnt need the hassle.... So now I do the cleaning myself and save the money into a fund to enable us to go on a nicer holiday than normal!

Where are the normal cleaners who just come and do what they are employed to do. Around here the rate is £12 per hour.

I think you have agreed that she can leave. She put the phone down on you. She wont like you from now on and do you really need someone in your house who feels like this?

.."doing you a favor"......umm, you pay her

cheeky, cheeky

Not only do her three grandchildren not count as a protected characteristic, you're not employing her, you're engaging her to provide a service.

Assuming, of course, that she's not actually your housekeeper working for you 9-5...

Awww you have been very understanding and fair to be honest, don't blame you at all for reaching the end of your tether!

Without a doubt, I wouldn't have her back whatever now, her attitude stinks and I wouldn't trust her after this.

I think some people really dont see how unreasonable they are. She is looking after her 3 GC's. What that has to do with you is beyond me! Yet she expects you to accept this situation and in fact will help you out but doing your cleaning (which you are paying her for!).

I gave up having a cleaner because they often had issues which you get dragged into. The previous one would just not turn up and then say her mother had been ill, she needed to take her cat to the vet urgently etc etc. All very interesting but I only wanted my blooming house cleaned!

I had a cleaner bring her 12 year old. She got her to help clean and left two hours into a four hour stint.

I only found out because I came home early to an empty house. I had to phone her to tell her not to bring her daughter again. I don't want to be paying a 12 year old to clean my house although she had done a good job to be fair

I was in Canada at the time.

Find another cleaner and think no more about it.

Yep- there are great cleaners around often through word of mouth. But it does seem to be surprisingly common to bring your children to a strangers house (with all the issues that throws up) and to get arsy when the householder disagrees.

What if something goes missing, what if something is broken by the visiting child. Its not your issue that she has offered to look after the GC. She should have agreed with her daughter that it would only be when she wasnt working (and working she is -she is not doing you a big favour) although maybe as you would be without a cleaner for 2 weeks she thought she was!