To not want my cleaner to bring her 3 grandchildren to my house when she cleans?

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Age 7, 9 and 11. I allowed it once as a one off thing during the Easter holidays and they were appalling behaved. They raced all over the place shouting, broke a couple of mugs and one of dd's toys and drunk all of the lemonade and ate all the crisps from the cupboard before I realised (they never asked they just took them). They also swore a lot.

I spoke to cleaner at time and asked her not to bring them again as really she didn't get much cleaning done . Now she's rung and left a message saying they're coming with her tomorrow as "her dd has no child care". I don't want them here. I've already got 2 of DD's friend's over so there will be 4 children in the house anyway.

I phoned cleaner and suggested she comes on Monday instead as its not convenient to have the children here and she said she'd bring them then as she's looking after them for the next 2 weeks. I told her that as I'd said at Easter it didn't work having them here and to let me know when she could come without them and I'd give her some extra hours then. She got very stroppy with me and said I was discriminating against her and I had to allow it. I told her no meant no.

AIBU?

Sack the stupid cow.

Discrimination?

YANBU OP. agree it might be time for a new cleaner...

Madness get a new cleaner.

She is being ridiculous. I'd like to see ds with me at work :o

I'd love to know who she thinks will put up with this. Even if the person she's cleaning for is out of the house, the cleaner would have to do double the work, working for the employer, then cleaning up all the mess.

New cleaner needed.

Did you ask her how she thought you were discrimiating exactly? What a loon. If her DD has no childcare then perhaps her DD should take her own kids to bloody work. Tell her in no uncertain terms tht she either turns up alone or looks for another gig.

I can't believe she had the gall to be stroppy with you and accuse you of discrimination. Great way to get fired. No, I wouldn't allow it either OP, YADNBU.

As an employer you can only discriminate against someone if they have a protected characteristic under the Equality Act.

Even then, the person has to show that their employer has treated them less favourably than someone else in the same position who did not have the characteristic.

I do not think this situation falls into scope of the Act because you would not anyone to bring foul mouthed, marauding children into your home expressly against your permission.

YANBU.

But I loved the wording of your OP - it reminded me of the tiger who came to tea

She just phoned back suggesting she comes from 6-9pm instead but "I will be very tired from looking after the children all day so I would be doing you a huge favour". I declined. We have friends coming round for dinner tomorrow night. Even if we didn't I hardly want someone trying to clean while I'm feeding, bathing and putting children to bed.

I said that in the circumstances it may be better if I found a new cleaner as she clearly couldn't do the hours we needed and she just slammed the phone down. Umm do I count that as her resignation?

I think you will find she will call again. Her daughter is probably getting the ear bashing of her life!

itallaboutyoubaby they weren't quite as bad as the tiger though they didn't drink all the water in the tap and most importantly left daddy's beer alone

Oh my goodness - she sounds like a nightmare.

Get rid asap.

catmouth does being in charge of foul mouthed marauding children count as a protected characteristic? If so I'm on wobbly ground.

Who takes three kids to the work place? No one. Nor should the cleaner. I sacked a cleaner for doing this many moons ago, especially as she did not ask.

Shed be doong you a favour?!

Bollocks, she's taking the piss. Get rid and find someone better.

Wow seriously cheeky woman. I think that maybe that ismher resignation.

she would need the hide of a rhino to call you back now.

I would count it as you sacking her...

I suspect her daughter is being very persistent about demanding childcare! and this is why she's trying to make you let her.

Have to say that it would probably be the best thing to take that as her resignation. I doubt you guys are going to get on well after this

did she just let them wreck your home and swear? didn't see that it was totally unacceptable?

Thinking about it, the fact she's so arrogant about it and spouting discrimination shite AT you would make her position untenable to me. Absolutely no go. What's next?