My DD is 18 months old and whilst I made quite a few 'mummy friends' to start with before and after she was born I am finding these friendships quite transitory and unpredictable. I did do an ante-natal course (not NCT) and met a group of 5 friends there but I only see one of them now and she has let me down the last couple of times we've arranged to meet. The others are either back at work full time or moved to another area. One woman I met at a playgroup I used to spend a lot of time with, meeting nearly every week at one stage, has now moved to a new city so I think it is unlikely we will spend much time together again. I think I am overly gutted about it and she doesn't seem to be!
I can usually find things to do with my DD in our area but often feel a bit bored and sometimes bit lonely. I have this idea that other mums are having this wonderful social life out there and all have friends right from the birth of their babies that are stable friendships. I do find these friendships very transitory and people don't seem to make much effort.
I think I had a rose-tinted idea that I would still know a lot of these people as our kids got older and we could reminisce together about when they were tiny, - stupid or what!!
I do have a handful of close friends who I've known for years and generally these relationships are good although I only see them every few weeks/months. I feel I need a group of mummy friends simply to do things with or I tend to feel a bit isolated.
DH says I invest far too much in my friendships and I should just take it as the ebb and flow of life. But I am convinced everyone is having a wonderful social life and is constantly meeting up wtih other families to have fun together. Is this actually true??? Could really do with knowing what it is like for others, have sometimes convinced myself that if I had only done NCT antenatal then I would have this wonderful mummy social circle still going on. Any advice as I am feeling a bit down about the whole friends thing but just wonder AIBU.