To think it's not normal to phone your grown up son 3-4 times a day, every day

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DH's mum phones DH 3-4 times a day, every day, sometimes more. DH moved out of his parents 15 years ago so it's not like he's recently gone and she's missing him or anything like that.

Anyway, I offended DH by asking if he could answer the phone this morning as it's probably his mum anyway, she won't talk to me other than to ask if dh is home, he's now saying I'm bitter coz my mum doesn't phone me that often (trust me, I'm not, I love my mum and we talk often but 3 phone calls a day would drive me mad!)

DH thinks all normal mum's phone their children that often, they don't do they?

I used to phone my parents each week [when they eventually decided to have a phone]. I usually send a text to my children as they work shifts. I did have to remind them last week that they should be checking up on me in the hot weather! Cue many facetious comments!

I totally understand OP!

My mum has taken to texting several times a day! She's 69 and my DF is retired so they are both home so she's not lonely and I always thought she was busy...

It was way worse than this at one time - firstly she got onto msn messenger and could see if I was online (was joined with yahoo and I was online a lot with work or Uni work and left yahoo signed in) and was constantly sending messages. If I didn't reply, I'd get another one saying "are you there?" and then "must be a problem with yahoo". She then got an iPad and a mobile, it was constant texts and messages via one or the other, if I'd didn't reply on messages then she'd send a text saying "I'm online, are you?" If I didn't reply again or answer the various texts throughout the day then I'd get texts asking "are you ok?" These hundreds of texts were just to say "it's a lovely day" or "I'm off to the library" or "I'm home now".... Seriously hundreds of messages!

It was a nightmare... might sound daft but I felt hounded! I didn't even have stuff to chat about! I'd be doing something with the kids or coursework/housework or dh and i would sit down to have tea/watch a film and she'd start constantly sending messages or texts. I now ignore iPad messenger (turned sound off - much easier on the iPhone as comes through as a text rather than a irritating alert on iPad), I only respond to texts but i respond when I have time and I ignore all the statements.

I sound horrible, I don't mean to be but I don't know any friend who's DM is constantly contacting them several times a day! I'd be happy to chat 1-2 a week at a convenient time though!!!

DH would move to the North Pole if his mum did this. She finds it hard enough to get him to have a 5min conversation once a week.

I'm getting to that point Sleep!! Well, not moving as such as I already live a 3hr drive away but maybe not having a phone/Internet/pc/iPad etc...!!!!!!

I really ought to add that DM has been trying to do the same to the dc's(!) thankfully dc1 ignores the messenger and dc2 keeps somehow altering the settings....